Soldato
Hey all.
I live in Stoke and bought a house here in 2013, but I am now working 40 miles away. I am not originally from Stoke.
Obviously this means people I meet socially need to be outside of work. I'm fine outside of work but in work I can get a tad grumpy, so not interested in socialising with colleagues.
I've got a very close friend who lives just a few doors down (both have mx5s and met that way) and get along very well.
We speak most days and go out frequently - Out for tea (dinner to posher Southerners!), cinema, shopping etc.
Others are people I used to work with I meet now and then and a few uni mates I meet 1-2 times per year.
My closest university friends were international students so a meet up one weekend is not possible.
So I want to get out more to meet new people. Ladies also (used online dating, with mixed success over last 6 months).
What I am doing to get myself out there:
- I go to the odd car show locally
- I go the gym (1 mile away) 4-5 times per week and chat to a lot of people there.
I've gained a lot of confidence over the last 18 months as I have slowly lost weight and put on some muscle, which is helping a lot.
I'd say I am not a social person and whilst undiagnosed am a bit anxious and often avoid social situations!
Thinking of going to the pub. I have tried it twice but found it hard to strike up conversation - Drink a pint or two on my own then leave even though I am sat at the bar. Should I keep at it?
Note: This is NOT a woe-is-me thread! Just looking for pointers and ideas.
TLDR: Would you go to the pub alone?
I live in Stoke and bought a house here in 2013, but I am now working 40 miles away. I am not originally from Stoke.
Obviously this means people I meet socially need to be outside of work. I'm fine outside of work but in work I can get a tad grumpy, so not interested in socialising with colleagues.
I've got a very close friend who lives just a few doors down (both have mx5s and met that way) and get along very well.
We speak most days and go out frequently - Out for tea (dinner to posher Southerners!), cinema, shopping etc.
Others are people I used to work with I meet now and then and a few uni mates I meet 1-2 times per year.
My closest university friends were international students so a meet up one weekend is not possible.
So I want to get out more to meet new people. Ladies also (used online dating, with mixed success over last 6 months).
What I am doing to get myself out there:
- I go to the odd car show locally
- I go the gym (1 mile away) 4-5 times per week and chat to a lot of people there.
I've gained a lot of confidence over the last 18 months as I have slowly lost weight and put on some muscle, which is helping a lot.
I'd say I am not a social person and whilst undiagnosed am a bit anxious and often avoid social situations!
Thinking of going to the pub. I have tried it twice but found it hard to strike up conversation - Drink a pint or two on my own then leave even though I am sat at the bar. Should I keep at it?
Note: This is NOT a woe-is-me thread! Just looking for pointers and ideas.
TLDR: Would you go to the pub alone?
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