That's what I felt like too, her wanting to be single before the weekend. She even asked me where the best place is to go clubbing, Why would you ask your ex this.
but why does she want to go out for a meal? it makes it even difficult when we have kids together. the question I ask myself is am I ready to move on yet, whilst the other women is lovely she has no job, and fallen in love with me over 2 weeks.
The other issue is that my ex said if she moves out there is a chance that things may work out. God damn hate these situations.
You're rebounding. That doesn't mean you are ready or moving on just yet.
It sounds like she is trying to make you jealous. There could be many reasons for this such as she's feeling guilty and manifesting that as anger towards you and therefore trying to hurt you. Alternatively, she wants to illicit a reaction from you so as she can feel that she's in control and wanted (having cake and eating it). There is the possibility that she's trying to use you for relationship duties without even being in the relationship (again, double standard). Indeed, she could just be badly trying to remain in contact with you as she misses you but won't admit it; you don't just turn your back on six years easily! Finally, there's the possibility that she's just an idiot and doesn't realise it's inappropriate or that there's anything wrong with it.
My advice to you is this: don't over think it. Stop talking to her. Don't respond or reply to her for a month and she if the dynamic changes. Don't be her security blanket.
Whilst there are of course many reasons why people exit relationships, and often the reasons we're given don't actually point towards the true cause, over thinking them will lead you only to insanity. I am a believer in the truism that if someone truly cared for you, they wouldn't be doing this to you. That's not to say that she doesn't, Dave. What that means it that something has become more important than that; it could be demons from her past, it could be boredom, or it could have been that the relationship became overwhelming.
The best course of action for you here is just to hold on to your dignity. Have some self respect, show her that you're not a doormat, nor do you have any obligations to her now she has chosen to exit the relationship. Of course, keep in basic contact regarding your children, but keep it short and to the point. Don't give her any attention and let her learn the hard way.