Daughter Crying at Nursery (parenting advice)

I'm really quite lucky in this, my eldest (6) is at the same school you little one (2) so my baby can't wait to go to school as she gets to see her sister more often (eldest lives with my ex during the week).

Jammy? :)
 
I don't have kids yet but my Mum worked at a nursery for many many years before retiring earlier this year so we would hear all the stories about what went on at home. As other in the thread have said this is quite normal to see this and its probable that the child is quite happily doing things all day and you are only seeing the times when she is upset.

As long as there is nothing really wrong, which the staff should be looking out for if you have already spoken to them about it, then from the things I have heard it should be a situation which doesn't last too long.

I'd agree with one of the previous posters that having you or your wife spend an extra hour there when dropping her off to get her settled is probably not a good idea as it would only delay the inevitable leaving issue whilst if you didn't do this she would probably be happily settled in that time.
 
InvaderGIR said:
If you want your child to be sent to a place for learning only, send them to a nursery, if you want them to learn in a home environment, and be a child, send them to a childminders. That's my view, but now they are changing it all to strict 'children should be doing xxx' and it's just not on.

But I'm biased, my mother is a child minder and the children she looks after develop at their own pace, and aren't forced. :)

InvG
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rubbish, you can be taught whilst at home with a child minder. i wouldnt send my son to a nursery for learning only, the only thing he would learn is more social skills, he gets on more than well enough with his childminder and at home with us. he is more clever than any kid i know of his age (which we are reminded of regularly by people who speak to him or interact with him).
a lot of the good childminders do it regardless and have done for ages. not sit down and learning specifically, but through play etc.
the rules have been brought in more to stop any old person saying they are a childminder and sitting on their ass all day with the kids running around.
 
Some of the advise here is really good and is appreciated.

Me and the mrs both on seperate occasions last night sat down with her while she was playing with her toys and chastted to her asking about her day, what she did etc (With no negativity what so ever) and she seemed ok, but when i mention school she just kept saying, "i don't like school" and when i asked her her why she said "i miss my mum". We went the route of telling how fun school is etc etc and her mum will pick her up afterwards and she seemed to be happy with this. Fingers crossed, we shall see how she goes today.
 
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just be patient with her and stick to the plan. The most important thing here is consistancy. As long as you and your wife stick to the plan and are working together on this, it will be fine but try not to give in. Hard, harsh but it will work in the long term. By Christmas, you'll have wondered what all the fuss was about :)
 
Admiral Huddy said:
just be patient with her and stick to the plan. The most important thing here is consistancy. As long as you and your wife stick to the plan and are working together on this, it will be fine but try not to give in. Hard, harsh but it will work in the long term. By Christmas, you'll have wondered what all the fuss was about :)
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Cheers mate ;). I feel more sorry for my mrs really because im normally in work when she is taking her to school so she is dealing with this more than me.

I hope your right though :)
 
Good news, mrs took her today and she went fine. Mrs had a chat with the teacher and it looks like the class size has increased over the last few days by 2-3 pupils a day (apprently this is what they do to let the kids get used to their new surrounding etc etc) and apprently they have all been crying screaming :D so im wondering if this scared here a bit and made her wonder why everyone was screaming/crying? Im hoping that is should start to get better from now on.

Cheers again guys ;)
 
There's either a real issue or there isn't, it's more likely that there isn't actually an issue and she has decided she'd prefer to spend it with you, in which case you'll need to explain to her that she has to go, and the reasons she has to.

I find its always best to be completely up front and honest with children.

If you are worried that there could be a real issue then you should talk to the nursery and ask them to maybe document her behaviour over the next week? I would try not to change her routine too much so wouldn't have thought lowering her hours at the nursery would do any good
 
amaru said:
Good news, mrs took her today and she went fine. Mrs had a chat with the teacher and it looks like the class size has increased over the last few days by 2-3 pupils a day (apprently this is what they do to let the kids get used to their new surrounding etc etc) and apprently they have all been crying screaming :D so im wondering if this scared here a bit and made her wonder why everyone was screaming/crying? Im hoping that is should start to get better from now on.

Cheers again guys ;)
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Glad you found out what the problem was :) Fingers crossed.
 
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