How long can someone live with parents till they charge u for rent

AcidHell2 said:
didn't it feel like home had changed though? that your now a lodger rather than part of the family?
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Not in the slightest. If anything (and in hindsight in quite a childish way) I felt I could do more because I was paying instead of relying on my parents. :)

JodieG said:
I teach them the value of money already and morals so I hope they'll appreciate everything as they grow.
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I see where you're coming from but I've always learnt better from doing, rather than just being told. :)
 
My parents always refused money when i lived at home, for the reason that it wouldnt notice to them, but to me at the time it would have damaged my saving plans, so why pay it? My mum always had the attitude shown by Jodie above, why would she want to charge her children for living at their home?

Moved out now so have rather expensive living costs :/
 
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Sudden said:
I can easily imagine them being quite insulted at the idea of me even suggesting something like that.
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You know what? I think it's more likely that you'd go up in their opinion if you offered. They may well turn the offer down but the fact that you've thought about it and made the offer to them would probably earn you a lot of respect for being grown up, thoughtful and mature.
 
Most of my friends and myself started being charged when we started full time work, I think its a fair system, and dont mind contributing to my parents when I get fed and watered :D
 
Do not forget it works both ways. My parents may not ask for rent in the future but I am sure that in 40 years time, everything will be reversed.

'Certainly, you can move into nursing accomodation but you'll have to give me some keep in return for me paying the fees for you!'

I somehow think not.
 
JodieG said:
Wow I'd like to see you live on £150 a month for food :p nevermind the rest :p
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For myself? Christ, that'd do me for 3 months! Our typical monthly shop is about £120. Hence why I said it was reasonable that I'm paying £150 a month to my parents. :)
 
I was on a work placement last year ( well the last uni year ) and I was paying my parents £200 a month for the 12 months I was at home - which wasn't too bad 'cos I was earning about 1.1k a month so I could still save some and have a monthly 'allowance' so to speak :p

My mate who is now earning nearly 30k in central london only pays his parents £200 a month - he's really raking it in !!
 
Well i've gotta start paying rent once i finish my college course, parents are both disabled and on low income, stop getting child benefit for me in september so then they be charing me which is fair enuff imo.

I contribute in my own way...i'm the one that buys the booze lol
 
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Jez said:
My parents always refused money when i lived at home, for the reason that it wouldnt notice to them, but to me at the time it would have damaged my saving plans, so why pay it?
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Agreed.

Completely depends on your family circumstances. An extra £100 a week or something like that would make no difference to my parents. Whereas £100 a week to me, could affect my lifestyle and savings plans quite substantially.

Still in Full time education (uni) but its been made clear to me that I will never pay rent.

Even if they did charge me rent - It would come all back as they'll probably help me out with a deposit for a house in the future.

If your parents have the financial capability to help and they want to help then they should. I've "learnt" about financial responsibility in other ways.
 
Each to their own I guess. Yes you have to look after your kids, but I'd be a bit "off" if mine had jobs and weren't contributing to the household. I wouldn't ask for it outright unless they were scrubbing and taking the mickey - however of course if they do contribute, i.e. cook, clean, do their own washing, buy their own food etc... then I have less issues. Then again I still think it's perfectly normal paying rent. What's the difference to paying your parents rent than paying rent elsewhere? Except for the fact it's a lot cheaper and more convenient at home.

Support doesn't necessarily mean giving hand outs and spoon feeding your kids - how on earth are they to get any independence and take responsibility if you give everything to them on a plate? Talk about mollycoddling!

If they refuse after an offer is made then that's fair enough and that's cool - I just hope those people pull their weight around. I can't stand ungrateful little ****s that do **** all and expect to have everything done for you.
 
[TW]Fox;10462485 said:
There is a difference between not charging rent and handing everything on a plate.
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True - but some people seem to blur the lines, and it's not "chargin" it's offering to help out for the costs. I'm sure a lot of these people leave their computers on hammer the internet, watch tv, use the phone, do their washing, eat the food without a seconds thought. That's what bugs me.
 
Feek said:
You know what? I think it's more likely that you'd go up in their opinion if you offered. They may well turn the offer down but the fact that you've thought about it and made the offer to them would probably earn you a lot of respect for being grown up, thoughtful and mature.
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bit hard since, I think my dad's exact words were, "Don't you dare get a job. you're there to study, not work" :p

and it really wouldn't. I do know my parents. More than likely to send the message of "I don't regard you as family, just someone who provides a service (in this case, a house to stay in)"

Naturally once i'm working, some things I would pay for myself, such as my phone bill, or going out for drinks etc. but if I was staying at home, rent would definitely not be one of them. But that is because there is no need to. If there was, then there is no question as to the fact I would help out with anything. But that goes whether or not I was staying in the house.
Agreed though, that I am lucky enough that my parents won't need me to help out.
 
I find parents charging their kids for rent absurd, regardless of age. I don't know of anyone in that situation and mine would never even dream of asking money for rent or moving out; I even got asked if I wanted an allowance a few months ago (I'm 23 and working ft). As far as I am concerned, I see a family as a unique entity, and we are all entitled to live under one roof. If something major needs buying and my parents cannot get it, I'll happily pay for it - in fact I just got 2 rooms recarpeted and soon to be refurnished. And if my parents feel I need something, they'll just buy it for me. What is a family if you don't rely on each other and where do you draw the line - bills, hiring of furniture, share of council tax, etc???
 
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