How long can someone live with parents till they charge u for rent

Morba said:
when earning, you should pay.

25% of wage to parents/guardians, 25% put in savings, rest is for you to do as you wish.
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The problem with that formula is that for people not earning a lot, the remaning 50% may not cover other outgoings e.g. phone, internet, travel, food, debt repayment etc.
 
HangTime said:
The problem with that formula is that for people not earning a lot, the remaning 50% may not cover other outgoings e.g. phone, internet, travel, food, debt repayment etc.
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in all fairness, if its that low a wage then 100% isnt really going to help.
if they arent earning then they shouldnt have debt and internet will be included in the 25% going to the parents.
 
If you go straight into work from high school, you should pay then, as you're making your own money. However, if you're in college, I'd say 18 is a fair age and it was the age I started paying
 
I paid "rent" when I moved back home after Uni ... but what my parents actually did was put it in a savings account for me so I could use it as a deposit for a house when I finally moved out ... saved me from spending it all here :)
 
Freefaller said:
True - but some people seem to blur the lines, and it's not "chargin" it's offering to help out for the costs. I'm sure a lot of these people leave their computers on hammer the internet, watch tv, use the phone, do their washing, eat the food without a seconds thought. That's what bugs me.
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This is true but then a similar amount of people think about what they do, take over mundane tasks from their parents to help out, keep the place nice, provide free early morning taxi services to their parents and suchlike ;)
 
Im 21, going to uni september next year.

Also in full time employment for a family company and living at home. Ive offered my parents rent but my old man refused point blank, hes very traditional and wouldnt take a penny off me as was the same with his dad to him. Although i pay for internet, car tax, insurance, mobile bill and £10 a week towards shopping.
 
Never really been in a position where it was sensible to do so tbh. I lived at home during my gap year and worked, but my folks thought it counterproductive for me to pay rent as I was saving for a bit of travelling and towards uni. If I move back home after uni I will def pay rent though.
 
My parents didn't need the extra £200 a month last year in all fairness but it was good practise for me - rather than just living at home for free I'd be contributing to costs (seeing as I was using all the usual things ... internet/water/food etc) ...

I would have liked to have that extra £200 a month going into my ISA but it at least keeps me in touch with the real world - you can't get something for nothing !

I have paid house costs the 2nd/final years now too so it hasn't been totally alien to me but it just kept me in the right frame of mind for when I do eventually get a place of my own - albeit with friends or on my own.
 
[TW]Fox;10463553 said:
This is true but then a similar amount of people think about what they do, take over mundane tasks from their parents to help out, keep the place nice, provide free early morning taxi services to their parents and suchlike ;)
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That's what I was saying though, if you help out in the house, do your own chores and pay your own bills and contribute to the housekeeping of the house then that's one thing. However people not lifting a finger to the pay the electricity bill, the tc licence, council tax, internet bills, gas bills etc... I find laudable. Frankly I find it disgusting, I know you are a more sensible and generous type of person Fox so this is not really aimed at you - I'm sure you help out and do the best you can. Besides you're a student probably not earning enough to make it worthwhile so you help out in other ways that you can - that is exactly what I'd expect.

gurdas said:
Well why don't you make your kids do the washing etc. then rather than asking for money? Also I hope you aren't calling me a spoilt brat because i'm nothing of the sort, I've lived away from my parents for over 2 years and pay my way so I do know what the real world is like. I still think making your kids pay is tight, there are better ways of showing them adulthood.
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Who said anything about asking for money. I'd expect them to offer to help out with the bills, and round the house as much as I do. I wasn't calling you a spoilt brat, I'm calling the attitude of a lot of people that shouldn't expect to help out at all spoilt brats.



What's the difference between renting at home and renting elsewhere? Sure your parents live there, but it's no different, you're an extra body to have to pay for and maintain the house with - why shouldn't you contribute? Don#'t people here feel it's selfish not to help out?

No wonder kids these days are so arrogant "know it alls" - they think the world's an easy place :/
 
Damien. said:
Im 21, going to uni september next year.

Also in full time employment for a family company and living at home. Ive offered my parents rent but my old man refused point blank, hes very traditional and wouldnt take a penny off me as was the same with his dad to him. Although i pay for internet, car tax, insurance, mobile bill and £10 a week towards shopping.
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Now you see there's a man with a good attitude and a fair head on his shoulders. Good on you. At least you offered and you're doing your bit to try and help. It's something - better than a lot of people who expect to live out of their parents pockets. :)
 
Freefaller said:
So you don't contribute anything at all? Cool, free electricity, free food, I bet you get free ironing and washing too eh?

Seriously, you're working full time and not contributing anything? I hope not - it's going to be a shock when you live away from home or wake up in the real world some day.
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Not.at.all. I am perfectly capable to live on my own and I much prefer my independence however I save bucket loads of money staying at home. I do get my washing/ironing done but I sure did it for 4 years at uni thank you very much. I have never been one to take all these for granted or abuse my parents' generosity and money; in fact I know to the pound what my outgoings and income were throughout uni and I could easily survive comfortably on my own with my job. I am very grateful to be part of a very close-knit family where everything we own is everyone's to share and not mine and theirs. If we need something, I'll often pay for it without asking the money back from them, it's only fair considering they raised me up. Strictly speaking, they would not expect me to move out until I was married and I am sure they would be unhappy if I moved out earlier (which I will prob do eventually).

I attribute this to culture too as I didn't move to the Uk till I was 16 and I realise the british family unit not as strong as other countries. (Mauritius was however developed under French and British rule with African and Asian influences).
 
Originally Posted by Shoseki
I guess it depends entirely on how much self respect you have...

There seem to be a lot of people these days sat at home, living off their parents, got a good wage, driving fancy cars around - as opposed to getting a place to live for themselves and fighting life the hard way.
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I agree entirely.

If you're working fulltime then you pay for your food and rent and other bills you may have - end off. Simple decency


Those who dont offer to do this are just greedy spongers who just take take take and dont give back. You shouldnt wait until your parents start asking for it. Why should your parents have to ask you to behave decently at 18?

e.g. if it was me i would never ask my kids for help in providing rent etc even though it may be difficult to keep a roof over all our heads - it falls to their children to show some responsibility imho when they reach an age to be considered adults and earning a fulltime wage then they should do the decent thing and help.
 
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if i was earning my mum expected a bit, think when i was on £200 a month while at college she took about £40, mostly for the internet though as i was about the only one who used it. Left my house at 18 and lived with gf and her parents, was then on £1k a month and payed £100 a month plus £30 a month for petrol money to them.
 
Morba said:
i dont see it as tight, i see it as teaching the kid that it is time to learn some financial responsibility.
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There are better ways of doing that imo, charging them rent is a lazy way od 'teaching' financial responsibility.

Freefaller said:
What's the difference between renting at home and renting elsewhere? Sure your parents live there, but it's no different, you're an extra body to have to pay for and maintain the house with - why shouldn't you contribute? Don#'t people here feel it's selfish not to help out?

No wonder kids these days are so arrogant "know it alls" - they think the world's an easy place :/
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The difference? Home is home, parents knew how much an extra body would cost when they decided to have children. I agree with dmpoole's sentiments here. Also when my parents are old, who will look after them? Should I charge them rent? I don't think its a case of not helping out, I thought it was a given that kids helped out around the house?

How many kids do you have Freefaller and how much rent do you charge them?
 
Also when my parents are old, who will look after them? Should I charge them rent? I don't think its a case of not helping out, I thought it was a given that kids helped out around the house?
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1.care/retirement home or live in care worker

2. you're not a "kid" at 18 working full time... you're an adult with adult responsibilities.
 
gurdas said:
There are better ways of doing that imo, charging them rent is a lazy way od 'teaching' financial responsibility.



The difference? Home is home, parents knew how much an extra body would cost when they decided to have children. I agree with dmpoole's sentiments here. Also when my parents are old, who will look after them? Should I charge them rent? I don't think its a case of not helping out, I thought it was a given that kids helped out around the house?

How many kids do you have Freefaller and how much rent do you charge them?
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At 18 you are no longer a child. It's not really Rent as such anyway, its contributing to the house bills. Food, electricity, gas and other bills.

I certainly don't see giving parents money to live in the house as 'proper' rent, or paying them for doing your washing, cooking etc.

Parents living with you when they old is certainly not normal in this country. I don't know anyone whos parents live with them.
 
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