Anyone on here lose a good friend to a woman?

Don't even get me started on that. Two of my best friends went into those situations. Couldn't rely or trust on them at all. I find it sad tbh, and when everything goes pear shape they come running back.

Meh. :\
 
Yeah, this has happened quite recently. One of my mates has been with a girl he met in college for just under 2 years, he went off to Uni this year, single, and he used to come back every weekend to visit the lads who have stayed here, even though we used to chat on msn nearly every night anyway... Now about a month ago he said that he had got back with her after I saw a pic of them together as his display picture. Since then I haven't heard from, he use to text me from time to time, nothing, barely been on msn and he definitely hasn't bothered to come back to see us.

When he broke up with her, his words were "I'm not gonna ever put a girl before my bro's again" Low and behold a couple of weeks later and it's happen all over again. When he was with her last we barely saw him, he never bothered to come out with us, he didn't even bother going to the clubs/pubs with us, or not unless she was there and even then he wouldn't spend time with us and he'd be clung to her like a magnet the whole night.

We've always been there to support him when they've split up, this is like the 6th time they've got back together, so we've never disowned him in anyway and we're always here for him, but as soon as he gets back with her he completely forgets we even exsist, which I find quite outrageous to be honest...
 
Not really 'lost' anyone to a woman but my best mate does go quiet when he's with some lass, normally we'll end up speaking on the phone after a few months and he'll be like 'yeah, I've been really busy with this and that, sorry for not contacting you' which is his speak for "I've been doing this bird".

It's kinda weird actually, I still class him as my 'best mate' (and he's gonna be best man at my wedding) as I've known him 21 years, yet I go weeks without speaking to him and spend most of my time talking to work colleagues these days. Guess that's what happens when you live in different cities. Kinda bloke I think will 'always be there' though if you know what I mean, even if we drift out of contact from time to time. Then again, I thought the same about a really close friend from school, and I've seen him once in 10 years.

Heck, in some ways maybe he feels like he's partly lost me to a woman, as I moved away to live with her and thus rarely go out back in our home town.
 
dont trust guys who put getting some random stupid woman at the expense of long standing friendships tbh.
 
Funnily enough I've got a mate who is battling against 'hoes before bros' with all his might, it's like an epic struggle against the dark side. He's sick of her wanting to change him and his mantra is that if she isn't happy with him the way he is then 'she can **** off'! Luckily for him she's nuts about him and so far the tactic seems to be working!
 
Had it happen with mates before for sure. I am lucky, my wife and I pretty much do our own things, we live together, so we dont have to do everything forever. I think she is the exception to the rule thou, most of my mates with women seem to be well under the thumb.
 
Happens all the time. 1-2 of my mates have done the same, but just remember it usually ends in tears and they come crawling back in the end.

It's just up to you whether you welcome them back into the fold with open arms (or tell them if you weren't good enough for them while they're with the bird, why should you be now? :p)

It's seriously one of my pet hates this, I would hate to put my mates in this situation because I know how annoying it is from the other side.
 
I think nearly everyone here will have a similar story to tell.

I had a very good friend who has had two serious relationships in his life. The first was rather contrivosal and at the time I thought nothing more of standing next to him and supporting him. Slowly he began to not communicate as much and lost contact a little.

It was a hard work to keep in touch and he lived in his own little world... when that ended in tears we (his old group of friends) picked up the pieces. He vowed never to take that relationship with us for granted again.

Recently in the last year he suffered from a dependency on alchol and really went down hill, again he refushed to let us help/support him. He hid his problems from his true friends.

Anyway his second serious relationship comes along and 'she' appears to have put him on the straight and narrow. First contact we recieve from him for ages was the news 'she' is now pregnant. Again a lot of people are appalled at this (he is 23) and the fact they have only been in a relationship a few months.

I do really hope it works out for him. We speak quite rarely and he is no longer on the end of a phone as much as he used to be. The sad thing is all of us would help him in an instance. Some people just take strong friendships for advantage.

Women do funny things to Men.
 
palmy said:
Women do funny things to Men.
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Most men are muppets though.

I've read this thread and it's so depressingly true. I can think of at least three seperate instances of this happening to me, and y'know what? Just ditch them.
These people are users and don't give a damn about you.
To all the people in this thread who have made the effort / laid down the law with the lady, good on you. If they're too stupid to recognise the effort you put into the friendship then more fool them.

On a side note;
Does anyone hate it when girls with no friends try to integrate themselves into your circle of friends?
 
Lost an old friend over 'girls' was probbably my fault really, started talking to this girl he really liked, ended up going places together, and he used to come and my sister as well because she had nothing else better to do at the time, summer holidays if i remember correctly.

Been the trusting guy i am assumed nothing would come of my sister coming i ended up seeing this girl he liked, which fell to peices pretty quick anyway and he decided to take a liking to my sister, as revenge or what i dont know, this caused major upset between us all and we have hardly talked since.

I invited him to a bbq years later and it was brought up again lol.

Then pretty recently i ended up talking to a girl he works with, completely randomly as it happens and was saying to her i should probbably make amends, dont know if i will though.
 
nomad said:
Had it happen with mates before for sure. I am lucky, my wife and I pretty much do our own things, we live together, so we dont have to do everything forever. I think she is the exception to the rule thou, most of my mates with women seem to be well under the thumb.
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Happened to me - and I move out of our (hers now!) house tomorrow! It's a shame, because I too was one of those guys that was never allowed out or anything, and eventually all my mates stopped calling.

It sucks that it came to separation, but I was definately under the thumb, and that's no fun!
 
busman said:
Lets face it, blokes in general will always go for the skirt over their m8s
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Except my daughters ex boyfriend.
He (presumably) had sex on tap, another home/family (he lived here for 4 months and didn't pay a penny) but the other week he told my daughter that his mates came first.

To be honest I'm glad he's gone.
Even though I welcomed him into my home he was a total loser who was always drunk.
Most nights my daughter would be sitting here dressed up ready to go out and he would phone saying he'd changed his mind and he was staying out with his mates.
I can't count the amount of times I've seen tears falling down her cheeks but for some reason girls tend to accept this crap.
 
Since I'm lucky enough to have 'normal' friends... no I can't say that has ever happened to me.

Perhaps being normal and having everything easy isn't that common.
 
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