Confidence with opposite sex

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My confidence has always been pretty dire with women. There's a girl who works on reception in our work building who i say hi to everyday but thats it. Today i asked her her name and told her mine. (score!!) Is it as simple as asking someone in public who you hardly know at all if they want to go for a drink some time?

All my girlfriends (not many) have came when ive been out and had a few drinks and been chatting a bit. Would it be a bit random asking someone out who you dont know at all?
 
Kennysevenfold said:
Wwk go for it, you ask she says no...feel a little embarrassed in front of her for a few days.
She says yes, you get To smash her....
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This is what i was thinking. But it takes some balls to do it all the same. Got a mate who chats up about 10-15 girls a night, his theory is that by probability 1 out of 10 will say yes. It always works too
 
Guest2 said:
This is what i was thinking. But it takes some balls to do it all the same. Got a mate who chats up about 10-15 girls a night, his theory is that by probability 1 out of 10 will say yes. It always works too
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I do the same, better than worrying about it mate, just ask women, be happy, no harm done. You will get used to asking them with time.
 
there's no harm at all. In a work situation it's often easier to end up 'out for a drink' with someone than it is with a complete random.

Can you arrange to go out with some other peeps in your office and casually mention it to her then ask if she fancies popping along? That way she can say no if she wants and you don't lose face, and if she says yes, well, happy days :D
 
Just be yourself and don't pretend to be someone/thing you're not.

Chat to her like a normal peson - she is just a human being.

You've got to know how to fail if you want to know how to succeed.

Don't be put off by rejection, chalk it up as experience and move on.

Don't build your hopes up, but be confident in yourself - nobody wants to spend time with a wet wipe.
 
bit riskier with a work mate than when your out and about

when your out and about you can remove any potential embarrassment just by thinking ''ill probably never see them again anyway''
 
I've asked out girls at work in the past - some were successful some not, and you know what, the awkwardness soon disappeared and you just go back to normal. Don't dwell on it, she won't.
 
Guest2 said:
This is what i was thinking. But it takes some balls to do it all the same. Got a mate who chats up about 10-15 girls a night, his theory is that by probability 1 out of 10 will say yes. It always works too
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Does he buy aforementioned lady a drink before? Or does he just go over to random women and say "Hey wanna go out tomorrow?" :p Just thinking... could be an expensive night drink-wise :p
 
batsy said:
Her what ? :p
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