Soldato
Edit each contact in Google and then select "groups" (just above the contact info) and choose "remove from my contacts".
This will keep the contact in Google (under all contacts) but remove it from the phone one (once it syncs)
that was where i was going wrong, i thought if i clicked remove from contacts it would kick them out of gmail.
shame for some reason i cant create a group in gmail and then that group and only that group syncs. as it will sync any that is classed as 'my contact'