How bad is your social life ?

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I have a few close friends, thing is though I have very boring interests and it's hard to find other people with similar interests.
I don't do small talk, I can't speak to someone about mindless nonsense which makes me have very high standards.
 
I've got a group of about 10 close mates and load of other acquaintances. But i just love staying in these days. Since i was 25, it hit me that i spent within my first 4 years of employment, a good 70+% on booze, and what a waste it was. Most of my mates love going out drinking...but at 27 now i just cant be bothered. Think i've been drunk 3 times this year, will have my 4th at my works night out. So with my new gaming pc, my xbox, my projector, while also armed with as many movies and tv shows that i could swing a cat at...plus toying with the idea/trying to write a children's novel. i just dont see the point. I've also got an awesome girlfriend. Fair enough if i was single then yeah i'd be out a lot more with my mates.
 
burtie said:
All my old friends have moved on to bigger and better things so my social life is zero.
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As I said above, I have often had this happen, and done this to myslf by moving on before. Now I will move on again to yet another country, which I love doing but I do start to miss friends and dislike having to start from scratch
 
School was mediocre, got bullied a bit. Uni was great because everyone just wanted to go out every other night. The only drawback was 10:1 sex ratio to boys (Staffs Uni) so was impossible to get a girlfriend. Did a year's placement in the MOD. Most people there had families so it wasn't really clubbing material. Next workplace (2003-9) was Christian, so again not clubbing material but met loads of people from the Sundissential board (same user name) and clubbed with them for a few years. Current workplace 2010+, local mental health authority, has a good mix of people and are all pretty much for going out, so social life is good at the moment.
 
Pretty good. Currently got loads of mates, quite a few close mates. Dont need any more per se but I'm friendly to everyone!
 
Back when I was at school, I'd have said I had about 10 friends, and then quite a few acquaintances, though to be fair, I never used to go out anywhere when I was at school except out to the snooker club every now and then with one friend (used to ve three of us, but one guy dropped out fairly quickly). But since leaving, I've only really maintained any form of contact with one friend (the one I play snooker with, which we still do whenever we both happen to be back home), mainly because of people moving all over the shop to go to uni.

At uni, I'd say I have 6 friends (basically the guys from my course), then acquaintances from across other courses, but again, I don't go out clubbing, or at all, really, except when the lot of us go out to Pizza Hut or something. As for my neighbours, I barely know any of them except one, who's doing the same course as me.

So, my social life consists of being in class with people, and almost nothing else. Chances are it'll be the same when I start work. Social situations just freak me out, and I don't like feeling like I'm ever interfering with anyone or being a burden, so I always get really about embarassed about the prospect of initiating anything. Sad, I know :o
 
Camarilla said:
Back when I was at school, I'd have said I had about 10 friends, and then quite a few acquaintances, though to be fair, I never used to go out anywhere when I was at school except out to the snooker club every now and then with one friend (used to ve three of us, but one guy dropped out fairly quickly). But since leaving, I've only really maintained any form of contact with one friend (the one I play snooker with, which we still do whenever we both happen to be back home), mainly because of people moving all over the shop to go to uni.

At uni, I'd say I have 6 friends (basically the guys from my course), then acquaintances from across other courses, but again, I don't go out clubbing, or at all, really, except when the lot of us go out to Pizza Hut or something. As for my neighbours, I barely know any of them except one, who's doing the same course as me.

So, my social life consists of being in class with people, and almost nothing else. Chances are it'll be the same when I start work. Social situations just freak me out, and I don't like feeling like I'm ever interfering with anyone or being a burden, so I always get really about embarassed about the prospect of initiating anything. Sad, I know :o
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Ban yourself from the internet and get out there.
 
Nitefly said:
Ban yourself from the internet and get out there.
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Why go out... You can spend your life indoors!

Open Uni course to learn
Work from home
All shopping - online.

In fact, thinking about it you could probably spend your entire life not uttering a single word if you planned it properly. Of course a 1yo wouldn't have the capacity to plan this out, but still...

kd
 
Social life is sweet FA, I have a 5 and a 6 year old and my life pretting much revolves around them. I dont have anyone local to look after the kids if the wife and I want to go out so we usually stop in. Last time I went out was about two months 4 months ago. Looking forward to the annual xmas get together with some really good mates.
 
Nitefly said:
Here's an ultimatum then. Do it this week because if you don't, you never will.

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Heh, trust me, I've given similar ultimatums to myself in the past. You can probably tell how well they went. Hell, the reason I was going to go to the Chester meet was because of this very reason, but something came along at the last minute to mess it up, as things so often do (I even had my little wash bag with mini shampoo, mini toothpaste etc. packed and sorted :o)*.

Without posting a wall of pathetic emo crap, it basically boils down to the fact that ever since I was bullied at primary school, I've always had a huge fear of how I appear to other people. As such, I skew myself to match who I'm with, so there's the me my family knows (aka the 'sanitised' me, who doesn't swear or make crude jokes), and the various personas I've presented to friends and acquaintances, a few personas I've had online and so on and so on. So, for me, meeting people is this horribly awkward moment when I try and work out what they're like, and mould myself into being someone that, at worst, is dull and inoffensive. Hell, the guy I mentioned earlier, that I still play snooker with, I've known him for 10 years, he's my oldest friend, and even around him I'm not 'me', I'm not far off, but I still put up various fronts to avoid (probably unnecessarily) embarassing myself.


...So much for not posting a wall of crap. Ah well :o
 
Mine is completely dead at the moment. I have good friends that I made at uni but they're all quite far away and I don't really have the time nor money to visit them very often.

Don't know anyone in the town I live in now. I have people at work that I get along okay with, but they're not my friends, and I hate my job so I do what I can not to be reminded of it in my free time.

Not a very fun life for a 24 year old with a degree, but there we go.
 
My Xmas is looking DRY as hell.

Most friends live too far away now to "commute" a decent night out.
Family what's left of it are all "not bothered" this year.
Sisters Moving on the 23rd.. Good luck with that rofl...

Forever alone Xmas?! Round mums for a microwave xmas dinner? lol :)

BF3 and SWTOR xmas? maybe saved !
 
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