How bad is your social life ?

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Camarilla said:
Without posting a wall of pathetic emo crap, it basically boils down to the fact that ever since I was bullied at primary school, I've always had a huge fear of how I appear to other people. As such, I skew myself to match who I'm with, so there's the me my family knows (aka the 'sanitised' me, who doesn't swear or make crude jokes), and the various personas I've presented to friends and acquaintances, a few personas I've had online and so on and so on. So, for me, meeting people is this horribly awkward moment when I try and work out what they're like, and mould myself into being someone that, at worst, is dull and inoffensive. Hell, the guy I mentioned earlier, that I still play snooker with, I've known him for 10 years, he's my oldest friend, and even around him I'm not 'me', I'm not far off, but I still put up various fronts to avoid (probably unnecessarily) embarassing myself.
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Just Primary school? I was bullied at Primary AND Secondary school as some didn't like the colour of my skin. For the record, I still get offensive or stereotypical racial comments thrown in for every single year since leaving Secondary school. You cannot have had more 'bullying' than me so you can do better than what I'm doing.

I don't agree with the various persona stuff.. I think you should be yourself. If people don't accept it, then its their loss not yours. You can never get along with everybody but there should be some people you can get along with.

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Going back to topic, I think I'm in the foreveralone.jpg club too :p

I have a few friends from a school where I used to learn Chinese when I was a little kiddie. Have known them for over 18 years now and we still keep in contact and go out/meet a couple of times a year. These people are the social ones and are helping me know/meet more people.

I have a family friend who is around my age that I keep in contact with, have known him for most of my life. I know other people that ain't so close from college, secondary school, etc.

Personally I think its the quality of friends rather than quantity BUT you do have to make the effort and keep in contact so that they REMEMBER YOU. If your social life is lacking, then find one of your friends that has a social life so you can meet their friends to expand your social circle.
 
I think i have a good social life, shooting all day sunday, monday night photography club, wednesday night shooting, thursday night classic ford club and fridays usually at the pub.
Do a lot of weekend long car shows as well, camping over. Few shooting events as well, competitions and what not.
Then i have to fit in mountain biking and gaming. You just have to get out there, find a club of something your interested in and join.
 
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Trust me, I know that most of my various foibles are completely irrational, and that plenty of people have it tougher than I did, but the logical part of my brain telling me this isn't as loud as the emotional part telling me that, sod that, just take the easy way out and be a hermit :p
 
1. Mortgage
2. Wife
3. Kids
4. Self employed

i have no time for this socialising you speak of

i cant remember the last time i went out with "mates" since moving 5 years ago i never see any of them anymore boohoo
 
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