My thoughts exactly ^.I've only read through the first ~15 replies and lat couple, so apologies to those guys lost in the middle who may have contributed something worth while, but......
I'm genuinely surprised at the amount of people saying "just leave it" or "just hope you meet a girlfriend that isn't clingy/needy etc". I'm not the jealous type at all, and my last girlfriend who massively so. To the point where she wanted any photo with me half naked (or fully naked as some were) or that had anything to do with an ex removed from FaceBook.
Now I think a balance should be maintained. Everyone has a history and it's nice to see pictures of travels, there's no deal here. But why would you keep pictures of you and your ex being a couple on there? That is the most massively socially awkward penguin thing I can ever imagine. "Yeah, here's a picture of me and my ex, hope you don't mind 'cause otherwise that would be really clingy and protective of you". Uh really?
I know my girlfriend has had sex before and it doesn't bother me - doesn't mean I want her to tell me about the last time she was viciously ploughed! Same goes with exs; I know she's had them, but I don't want 500 of her 1200 FaceBook photos to be of their memories for me to see.
That just tops it off as the most bat **** crazy post here in my opinion! What is this? Treat them mean to keep them keen?!
And again. I've got a photo album at home of my travels in Hong Kong and Thailand with an ex. I would never throw it away. But how socially inept would it be to have it on display around my house?
I'm wondering how many people giving this ilk of advice actually casually have pictures of exs laid around for their partner to see, or have been in the position of having to see it themselves
Facebook etiquette after breaking up with ex-gf?
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My opinion would be to delete the pics of you and your ex from facebook. If you want to keep them as a memento of time together, keep them in a folder on you pc. At the end of the day i am sure that any new gf wouldnt be too happy if you still had pics of you ex and you up on facebook. And a prospective new gf may be put off thinking you still were hung up on you ex if you havnt removed them from FB.
I find this hilarious. Other than mentioning facebook etiquette, but saying the op doesnt take it seriously, just wanting opinions from others yet he clearly does take it seriously enough that he can't make a decision on his own about his own life he has to post on an internet forum 
You know, having talked about it, I can see why people don't care.
There's two sides to this. "It's in the past, I'm not ashamed so it's staying". I've used this line before with my ex so many times. I agree with it. I also think that if I really like someone new, I'll make the effort to reduce any potential awkwardness they might feel by accidentally stumbling on pictures of me and my ex looking happy and loved up.
For what it's worth, I know my current girlfriend has pictures of her and her ex on FaceBook. Doesn't bother me one iota! Would it bother he if I had pictures of me and my ex on there? I guess we'll never know
There's two sides to this. "It's in the past, I'm not ashamed so it's staying". I've used this line before with my ex so many times. I agree with it. I also think that if I really like someone new, I'll make the effort to reduce any potential awkwardness they might feel by accidentally stumbling on pictures of me and my ex looking happy and loved up.
For what it's worth, I know my current girlfriend has pictures of her and her ex on FaceBook. Doesn't bother me one iota! Would it bother he if I had pictures of me and my ex on there? I guess we'll never know
Just leave everything as it is and continue. Would you seriously go off a girl if she had photos of her and her ex on there?
If there are some really cringeworthy ones you could perhaps get rid of them as you might with real photos, but Facebook will keep them forever anyway if they're not your uploads.
Also, mutual friends will presumably still have photos.
If there are some really cringeworthy ones you could perhaps get rid of them as you might with real photos, but Facebook will keep them forever anyway if they're not your uploads.
Also, mutual friends will presumably still have photos.
Hell, I block my current GF from my feed let alone ex's, haha
You know, having talked about it, I can see why people don't care.
There's two sides to this. "It's in the past, I'm not ashamed so it's staying". I've used this line before with my ex so many times. I agree with it. I also think that if I really like someone new, I'll make the effort to reduce any potential awkwardness they might feel by accidentally stumbling on pictures of me and my ex looking happy and loved up.
For what it's worth, I know my current girlfriend has pictures of her and her ex on FaceBook. Doesn't bother me one iota! Would it bother he if I had pictures of me and my ex on there? I guess we'll never know
Try asking he, maybe he will be bothered
Try asking he, maybe he will be bothered
Busted :X
You really don't realise how much information and history is on something like Facebook until you break up with someone.
I went through the exact same issue almost 2 years ago. At first I just blocked her (I still do) and after a while I temporarily disabled my account. Disabling my account did the world of good and really accelerated my recovery period.
Thankfully I didn't have many photos of "us" on Facebook so I just untagged myself as some were on her profile.
I went through the exact same issue almost 2 years ago. At first I just blocked her (I still do) and after a while I temporarily disabled my account. Disabling my account did the world of good and really accelerated my recovery period.
Thankfully I didn't have many photos of "us" on Facebook so I just untagged myself as some were on her profile.
This, pretty much. As far as I can tell, the only thing my ex did was to remove her relationship status completely, so it didn't show up when she started seeing her new guy. She was my best friend and partner for 10 years growing up, I'm not just blanket deleting all of that and pretending it didn't happen.
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I'd be in the do nothing camp also. Everyone has a past and some of these times were good times, it's a bit like a girlfriend wanting to throw away your childhood photos.
If you do anything then just block all facebook updates from her so you don't have to see them and tbh women are a bit mental on facebook and so when she does re-activate the account she will likely untag the photos yourself giving you the moral high ground into the bargain.
If you do anything then just block all facebook updates from her so you don't have to see them and tbh women are a bit mental on facebook and so when she does re-activate the account she will likely untag the photos yourself giving you the moral high ground into the bargain.
I used to be bothered by stuff like this and it was really gutting to see my ex going out all the time and the pictures of the lads she was all over but I kept the pictures of myself and her on my facebook as I was partially trying to cling onto my past with her and because they were exactly that... my past..... I wasn't ashamed of it so got on with life....
I then met my current girlfriend and we became good friends, added each other on facebook and just generally started hanging out. Of course I checked her photos before we got together and wasn't bothered by one of them, we then started dating a few of them suddenly started to bother me (yet I never said anything) yet I literally sat there one day thinking WHY? WHY does it bother me.... Was she not entitled to a life before me? It isn't as if she is all over these lads SINCE we got together and been posting these photos... ever since then I have not been bothered at all about Ex's on facebook and pictures... My GF is exactly the same, she knows I have a past and history with girls yet chooses to ignore it as she is only concerned with my time with her.
I then met my current girlfriend and we became good friends, added each other on facebook and just generally started hanging out. Of course I checked her photos before we got together and wasn't bothered by one of them, we then started dating a few of them suddenly started to bother me (yet I never said anything) yet I literally sat there one day thinking WHY? WHY does it bother me.... Was she not entitled to a life before me? It isn't as if she is all over these lads SINCE we got together and been posting these photos... ever since then I have not been bothered at all about Ex's on facebook and pictures... My GF is exactly the same, she knows I have a past and history with girls yet chooses to ignore it as she is only concerned with my time with her.