Quite.
Having a career whilst traveling and being independent all at the same time is going to be tough with or without kids.
Is it weird I don't want kids at 32?
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Having a career whilst traveling and being independent all at the same time is going to be tough with or without kids.
Yeah but I mean literally. I contract, don't have a notice period, have no real issues to work through. I don't think it's the best plan but thats quite a bit different from ditching your kids, not having the money, or having responsibilities.
Don't get me wrong either, I posted in the Internet dating thread, I would consider myself lucky to find a girl I want to settle down with and would be quite happy to be tied down, but until that happens I have a ridiculous amount of freedom.
Also like I said previously, I imagine not having kids would have its advantages. Sure I'd be missing out in an aspect of life, but I'd be gaining in other areas such as freedom and financially. Preferring one to the other isn't wrong in my opinion and I suspect I could be happy with either.
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Lucky for you your parents did not have the same opinion as yourself, eh? Enjoy being able to do what you want when you want and with whoever you want without the love of a child, but you may come to regret it at some point. You also may not, but to state that you would rather have cancer should be worrying to yourself. As for spawning a 'useless life', you know, with some nurturing, they may not so so useless and actually do something good.
The simple fact of life is that we are born to reproduce. It is not weird to not want to do so, but it does go against the very point of being alive.
Indeed, but you get the point I was trying to make to Lysander, we all have certain things that need consideration before we can go haring off willy-nilly.
I haven't looked in there tbh, from my own experience (and I appreciate everyone's is different) I have more freedom now than I ever had when I was a single fella without a child, due to other commitments. I don't think children necessarily have to impact on your freedom, I think the only thing is that what you want changes and that scares some people.
Good luck in finding "a right one"
The point of being alive is to lead a worthwhile, productive, inspired, creative existence. Not to mindlessly spawn children. I know biologically it is the point of being alive for all creatures, but I have no interest in paying attention to that.
Sometimes the most inspiring, creative, productive and worthwhile thing you can do in life is bring up a child to be the best they can be, and perhaps change the world just a little bit.
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Castiel, is it OCD to want to see you posts reach 55,555?
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Indeed, but you get the point I was trying to make to Lysander, we all have certain things that need consideration before we can go haring off willy-nilly.
I haven't looked in there tbh, from my own experience (and I appreciate everyone's is different) I have more freedom now than I ever had when I was a single fella without a child, due to other commitments. I don't think children necessarily have to impact on your freedom, I think the only thing is that what you want changes and that scares some people.
Good luck in finding "a right one"
It's actually a funny thread even given the obvious fact you wouldn't want to do online dating.
I don't think I'd feel the same way about the freedom from a logical perspective, I'd see myself having less choices. However I also imagine/hoped those would be choices I no longer wanted, thus the distinction would no longer matter.
Ta much though.
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While thats true in many peoples cases, it would be folly to suggest it appropriate for everyone. Many men and woman run out on kids they never wanted and never should have had, I gather it all comes down to the individual.
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Well I am sure that your productive, inspired and creative existence will be well remembered when you are gone, such as mulling over how necrophilia works for girls. Keep living the dream.
No, see Gilly's charity auction thread for an explanation.
Edit: I see what you mean...I don't really look at that until it gets to another avatar.
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I don't think neither my wife or I really wanted kids, we had a decent amount of money coming in and spent it on holidays and cars.
But ..... 10 years ago when I was 37 our son was born and I can honestly say its the best thing to happen to us.
Yes you life changes, your priorities change but life doesn't end, its hard work at times but can also be very very rewarding.
If I was to do it all over again I honestly wouldn't change a thing.
But ..... 10 years ago when I was 37 our son was born and I can honestly say its the best thing to happen to us.
Yes you life changes, your priorities change but life doesn't end, its hard work at times but can also be very very rewarding.
If I was to do it all over again I honestly wouldn't change a thing.
I'm 26 and I've always known that I don't want children. I've discussed it with my gf, and she isn't ruling it out, so at least we know where we both stand when it comes to that point. In my mind, the way I think, the way I see myself in the world, one of the worst things that could happen to me is to be a father, I wouldn't want to do it or even be of any use to the child.
I can't make a connection with children, it's awkward and always has been. I've held a baby once and it was one of the most disgusting experience of my life, ever since I avoid them if I possibly can. It's the noise, the dirtiness, the smell, the responsibility in all aspects, the guilt if it all goes wrong.
Also selfishness plays a part, I don't want to share a part of myself with a child of my own, I want to die knowing that I was the last part of me and nothing continues after that. It's a weird thought, but one I've had since my teens.
I sound totally crazy when I write this down!
(no one is ever going to own up to regretting having their child are they?! I bet it does happen)
I can't make a connection with children, it's awkward and always has been. I've held a baby once and it was one of the most disgusting experience of my life, ever since I avoid them if I possibly can. It's the noise, the dirtiness, the smell, the responsibility in all aspects, the guilt if it all goes wrong.
Also selfishness plays a part, I don't want to share a part of myself with a child of my own, I want to die knowing that I was the last part of me and nothing continues after that. It's a weird thought, but one I've had since my teens.
I sound totally crazy when I write this down!
(no one is ever going to own up to regretting having their child are they?! I bet it does happen)
Some people are simply better suited to parenthood, I mean about 5% of men suffer from detachment or other personality disorders related to emotional connections.
It would be silly to suggest that everybody would be better for it - it's totally upto the individual.
It would be silly to suggest that everybody would be better for it - it's totally upto the individual.
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I think this is true about myself, but some people don't accept that and see people that don't want children as freaks and then try to guilt or pressure people into thinking they NEED to have a child.
Well I am sure that your productive, inspired and creative existence will be well remembered when you are gone, such as mulling over how necrophilia works for girls. Keep living the dream.
The point of living is not to leave a legacy but to do the very best you can for yourself and yourself only.