Split up with the missus on the 23rd and couldn't be happier
That is all.
Grats man!
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Grats man!
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Good work Theo, Good work 
Pff, well today I lost all faith in meeting someone.
new girl in the admin office, I see here once or twice a day as I drop reports and see my engineer for advice. We often have 5-10 minute chats as I'm signing in / signing out.
I thought we were getting along fine so asked her if she wanted to go for drinks and her reply has left me reeling.
"I'm not sure I'm desperate enough to date a ginger, it's like scrapping the bottom of the barrel".
To which the other girls in the office my age agreed.
So apparently any positive attributes I may have are completely and utterly negated because I don't have the standard hair colour variation.
So with that startling revelation I start a new year
WAT..
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nice one
so, ive made a promise to myself for this year, not a resolution, just something i think its about time i achieved.
Its been a year since i split up with my ex of 4 years.
I want to finally properly move on with my life, im not sat here whining for my ex or anything pathetic like that, but its still casting a black cloud over me and i cant seem to shift it, just everything that's happened between us, just find it very hard to not think about it! don't want to sit around with this black cloud over me anymore!
im only 20, i got my whole life ahead of me so its shouldn't even be on my mind at all!
be nice if i could meet someone else!
Pff, well today I lost all faith in meeting someone.
new girl in the admin office, I see here once or twice a day as I drop reports and see my engineer for advice. We often have 5-10 minute chats as I'm signing in / signing out.
I thought we were getting along fine so asked her if she wanted to go for drinks and her reply has left me reeling.
"I'm not sure I'm desperate enough to date a ginger, it's like scrapping the bottom of the barrel".
To which the other girls in the office my age agreed.
So apparently any positive attributes I may have are completely and utterly negated because I don't have the standard hair colour variation.
So with that startling revelation I start a new year
Nasty nasty women.
If that girl had been my friend she'd have been an ex-friend pronto for saying something like that.
If it helps one of the best looking men I've ever seen had red-hair. Still remember it. I was sitting in a cafe in some European city and he walked by. I was in mid-conversation and just stopped and stared while he walked past.
Red hair is nice
To be honest, I don't think you've missed out there at all. She probably bullied the geeky girls in her class (and I know the sort)
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that's what i tell myself constantly! but the brain doesn't listen!
I feel like shouting.. What is it that I have I got that attracts attached women to me FFS..
Look love, if you've already got a boyfriend/husband/partner WTF are you doing taking my hat tie and shirt off on a bloody dance floor.
Needless to say as she got down the buttons on my shirt I got **** blocked by the said "attached other" stepping in.
Women get a bit of drink inside em on NYE and they think they're in an episode of The Full Monty.
I thought I was well in there too, she was smoking.
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Full props to my Bro on stage at the time though as he started "teenage dirtbag" just at the right time..
Nicely accentuated certain lines for me.
Her boyfriend's a ****
But he doesn't know who I am
And he doesn't give a damn about me
Look love, if you've already got a boyfriend/husband/partner WTF are you doing taking my hat tie and shirt off on a bloody dance floor.
Needless to say as she got down the buttons on my shirt I got **** blocked by the said "attached other" stepping in.
Women get a bit of drink inside em on NYE and they think they're in an episode of The Full Monty.
I thought I was well in there too, she was smoking.
Foreveralone.jpg
Full props to my Bro on stage at the time though as he started "teenage dirtbag" just at the right time..
Nicely accentuated certain lines for me.
Her boyfriend's a ****
But he doesn't know who I am
And he doesn't give a damn about me
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Ok Guys,
Advice..
Has anyone delt with someone who seems to be never happy.....
My fiancé is just slowly now draining me...... I have tried to meet her expectations on everything and always have, I did the big proposal and put up with her through bad times, but at the moment it seems I am just never enough....
She asks for more and for example says "I want more affection", I am more affectionate, then the week later she wants even more! its like a endless game of trying to make her happy and the finish line is a constant moving goal! Then a moment I think wow everything is going smooth and happy...... I will go to the gym and say ok see you later and if I am in a rush forget just to kiss her goodbye..... omg the hour later when I'm home lol, I wish the ground could swallow me. That simple tiny thing, she thinks is such a thing that it demands a entire discussion over our relationship.
I think the problem comes from something which I have only just realised..... I seem to be her only item in her life! I mean she lives at home with me and my parents, as we have a house which we are refurbing so saving money. She goes to work, comes home and sits with me, watch Tv etc etc but thats it! the weekend we never don't see each other If I go do something she just comes along as well..... Almost like I am the only thing she thinks in her life can give her happiness so that gives her the right to demand as much as possible from me lol!
Has anyone delt with something like this in a relationship?
Advice..
Has anyone delt with someone who seems to be never happy.....
My fiancé is just slowly now draining me...... I have tried to meet her expectations on everything and always have, I did the big proposal and put up with her through bad times, but at the moment it seems I am just never enough....
She asks for more and for example says "I want more affection", I am more affectionate, then the week later she wants even more! its like a endless game of trying to make her happy and the finish line is a constant moving goal! Then a moment I think wow everything is going smooth and happy...... I will go to the gym and say ok see you later and if I am in a rush forget just to kiss her goodbye..... omg the hour later when I'm home lol, I wish the ground could swallow me. That simple tiny thing, she thinks is such a thing that it demands a entire discussion over our relationship.
I think the problem comes from something which I have only just realised..... I seem to be her only item in her life! I mean she lives at home with me and my parents, as we have a house which we are refurbing so saving money. She goes to work, comes home and sits with me, watch Tv etc etc but thats it! the weekend we never don't see each other If I go do something she just comes along as well..... Almost like I am the only thing she thinks in her life can give her happiness so that gives her the right to demand as much as possible from me lol!
Has anyone delt with something like this in a relationship?
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People who have been in relationships which weren't working have dealt with something like this before, yes.
Read your post back and see how many positives versus negatives there are.
Read your post back and see how many positives versus negatives there are.
Yes thats what I thought.....
The thing is I literally have put everything into this, I have tried the hardest I could to sort things, try to be whats she wants etc etc Spent every penny I have earnt on our house etc etc.
Just can't deal with the thought that it would be over :S
The thing is I literally have put everything into this, I have tried the hardest I could to sort things, try to be whats she wants etc etc Spent every penny I have earnt on our house etc etc.
Just can't deal with the thought that it would be over :S
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Do you love her?
Yes of course I do, thats why I asked her to Marry Me, but at the moment its just getting worst and worst :S. If I did love her I wouldn't have put up with the last 8months being just beaten down daily over how I am not making her happy, so I change things and she is happy with me for 3 or so days, then she just sets the bar even higher to the point its unachievable!
Example. I see her every night from 5:30pm, we watch TV chat to my parents, go bed and have 1.5hours alone before sleeping just in bed, then at the weekends, we go for walks and see each other for the whole 48 hours!. I got told last night "We don't spend enough time together" then when I challenge her to actually explain she can't and just says she feels we need more time, apart from quitting my job there is nothing I can do. Things are just getting unmanageable now in her expectation.
She seems to want the Bridget Jones story and that high school type of relationship but 24/7, 356days of the year, but she is 26 and can't accept anything less.
I love her more than anything and every time she keeps telling me she is not happy because of me its just slowly killing me, especially when I have literally spent 8 months just trying again and again, only for her to change her mind or push the bar higher.
Example. I see her every night from 5:30pm, we watch TV chat to my parents, go bed and have 1.5hours alone before sleeping just in bed, then at the weekends, we go for walks and see each other for the whole 48 hours!. I got told last night "We don't spend enough time together" then when I challenge her to actually explain she can't and just says she feels we need more time, apart from quitting my job there is nothing I can do. Things are just getting unmanageable now in her expectation.
She seems to want the Bridget Jones story and that high school type of relationship but 24/7, 356days of the year, but she is 26 and can't accept anything less.
I love her more than anything and every time she keeps telling me she is not happy because of me its just slowly killing me, especially when I have literally spent 8 months just trying again and again, only for her to change her mind or push the bar higher.
Does she have any hobbies? Perhaps suggest she gets some? (I know theres no subtle way of doing this! :x)
It's not healthy for her to be completely dependant on you for stuff to do, you need your own time (evidently!)
Nope nothing and I have told her that she needs to making her self happy, instead of relying on me for every little whim that she suddenly decides is the only thing that will make her happy.
She has said she will look for something but she has said that for so long right now :S. Dunno what to recommend to her, before me she would see friends etc but now doesn't see anyone but me.
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All that's about you - what does she put in?
Does she have a job, and when will you stop living with your parents? I get the feeling that she feels trapped in your current living arrangements. FYI, it isn't normal for an engaged couple to be living with their parents /in-laws for an extended amount of time without good cause.