Girlfrend not wanting to drive to me anymore !

[TW]Fox;28211843 said:
I dunno.

Some girls just don't enjoy driving and would enjoy trips out etc more if they didn't need to drive. That's not the same thing as expecting a free chauffeur, is it?

It's hardly surprising that OcUK has taken the side of the OP - it always does - but reading between the lines she doesn't seem to be being THAT unreasonable. The OP refuses to visit her because he 'thinks a car is a waste of money' and expects her to come to him all the time - regardless of the offer of paying for the fuel perhaps she doesn't want to be the one who is out all the time?

Then she'd probably have appreciated sharing the driving on holiday but nope, too much hassle for the OP.
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Spot on.
 
Aedus said:
What if I didn't want to date women of a certain race or body type (obese for example) , and one of said women "was the love of my life"? Does it make me selfish to have a preference of the women I date? It's my preference that I don't want to date women with kids from a previous relationship, so I won't. I don't understand how hard that is to get, I just don't find women with kids attractive, it's a massive turn off for me.
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You are unfortunately not debating with a particularly sensible or level-headed poster, just leave it and and bask in the knowledge you are one of the more rational l people on the forum. ;)
 
Roar87 said:
So you're saying a Woman with kids to another guy, who could still sniffing around and who may or may not be paying anything towards the kid/s, could be better than the same Woman who has no children? No I don't think raising another Man's child could ever be a positive
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Well that's completely blinkered. What a dim thing to say.
 
George Hincapie said:
Do you realise how selfish that sounds? Robocod is right; what if the woman is the love of your life? Would you really give that relationship a miss because she has a child?
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She wouldn't be the love of my life, because i wouldn't even get to the point of being in a relationship with such a woman. I have a no kids rule too.

George Hincapie said:
*sigh*
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Are you the Stalin of match.com or something?
 
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Roar87 said:
So you're saying a Woman with kids to another guy, who could still sniffing around and who may or may not be paying anything towards the kid/s, could be better than the same Woman who has no children? No I don't think raising another Man's child could ever be a positive
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It depends entirely on the person and whether you feel capable to take on the child. It's not for everyone and it's a personal choice. Relationships are not black and white.

I wonder how you'd feel if it was a single dad. Are all single dad's unworthy of having a relationship?
 
EddScott said:
It depends entirely on the person and whether you feel capable to take on the child. It's not for everyone and it's a personal choice. Relationships are not black and white.

I wonder how you'd feel if it was a single dad. Are all single dad's unworthy of having a relationship?
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I didn't say anyone was unworthy of a relationship, just that if you have kids then you're going to be marked down a bit when it comes to relationships compared to someone who doesn't. I actually think single Dads are probably in a better position than single Mums, women tend to find single Dads more attractive.
 
EddScott said:
It depends entirely on the person and whether you feel capable to take on the child. It's not for everyone and it's a personal choice. Relationships are not black and white.

I wonder how you'd feel if it was a single dad. Are all single dad's unworthy of having a relationship?
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Sorry, but it is hilarious and also slightly pathetic to watch people like you stuffing people's words in others mouths. Someone says they don't personally want to date a single mother with kids? Suddenly that means they're saying that all single mothers are unworthy of dating anyone, or that single mothers aren't worth it.... and then you play the cringeworthy "so are all single dads unworthy of having a relationship too" card. Someone please pass me the sick bucket while I simultaneously facepalm myself to death.

That kind of logic shows a simple mind, and one that isn't capable of rationalising these kind of arguments in any kind of objective fashion without feeling the need to spout absolute melodramatic nonsense in order to be heard.
 
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I'll give you the unworthy bit, he didn't say that. The lad said that some men refused to acknowledge single mums are less of a catch. I asked him if he felt this was always the case which, in my simple, melodramatic mind, it isn't. His reply was a fair comment, yours just tried, poorly, to press buttons. Well done for trying though.
 
Roar87 said:
I didn't say anyone was unworthy of a relationship, just that if you have kids then you're going to be marked down a bit when it comes to relationships compared to someone who doesn't. I actually think single Dads are probably in a better position than single Mums, women tend to find single Dads more attractive.
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Since when?!?!! :confused: I know plenty of women in their late 20's, early 30's who wont even look at a man if they have kids.
 
EddScott said:
I'll give you the unworthy bit, he didn't say that.
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No, he didn't. Which was Richdog's point and which you are agreeing with. Glad you've confirmed that your reply was a load of rubbish then :D.

George Hincapie - selfish, really? Dating is all about choice, it's not a charitable arrangement whereby you put aside lifestyle choice and personal preferences just in case the single mother with six kids and a violent ex that's always knocking on the door, turns out to be the love of your life.

Ain't nobody got time for that crap and if you're desperate enough to bother with that kind of baggage then all power to you. Doesn't mean it's selfish if you're not though.
 
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No, he didn't. Which was Richdog's point and which you are agreeing with. Glad you've confirmed that your reply was a load of rubbish then :D.
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The last bit yes, the the first bit, I'll stand by. :)

I'm not actually disagreeing that taking on a bird with a child isn't for everyone. I said in my post, it's personal choice.

Roar87 said:
I I actually think single Dads are probably in a better position than single Mums, women tend to find single Dads more attractive.
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Women see a single dad as a good bet because it shows responsibility. Single women without children are equally put off dating a single father so it's not just men.

You also get the same grumbles from women when a single father doesn't put them at the center of attention. Even the single mums complain because typically they are not used to dating a guy with children at home. What it does however, is make the man not always available and most women find constant availability a put off - even if they say they don't.
 
EddScott said:
I'm not actually disagreeing that taking on a bird with a child isn't for everyone. I said in my post, it's personal choice.

You also get the same grumbles from women when a single father doesn't put them at the center of attention. Even the single mums complain because typically they are not used to dating a guy with children at home. What it does however, is make the man not always available and most women find constant availability a put off - even if they say they don't.
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Hi, John Kerry called, he wants his flip flop back.
 
Get a car, better in the long run anyways.
As for her, perhaps shes bored driving your cheap ass around...
 
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