Caporegime
Buy him £50's worth of booze
Why? He's already done that, what you're assuming is the 'next step' is actually the 'current step'.
If it was me and my brother was asking for money for food, and I was suspicious of what he was going to spend it on, I would take him to the shop and buy him some food rather than handing the money over.
If I said no and was wrong about what he might be spending it on, then he's going hungry unless he can think of some other way to get it.
Either way, ask me and we'll sort something out but don't take the p, basically.
Yeah, my sister has all my savings now. If I lose my job I'm in ****!
I've lent my sister 5 figures of money, even though she's terrible with money it was needed. Never turn your back on family.
I see what your saying but I think everyone deserves a chance, especially family, I personally would give the money to him but with good a talking to also, explaining to him that I think he has been irresponsible with his finances and that I can lend/give him the money this time but don't expect to be helped next time.
You have to stick to your guns though, you can;t keep caving in every-time he asks.
Got a text from my wee brother (he's 20) asking me for a lend of money as work didn't pay him this week as he's leaving next week, he gave a weeks notice and thought he'd still be paid. He lives with his girlfriend in a rented apartment and is out every single weekend boozing it up without fail. This past week, he's been out almost every single night at parties. I know that he spends a fortune in the bookies (betting) each week also.
Well my brother texted asking me for a lend of £50 and he would pay me it back in Feb. I have money in the bank but texted him back and said no, that I couldn't lend him anything. He texted back saying that he doesn't have any money for food etc. this week so I replied telling him that I couldn't lend him it and that he needed to get his priorities straight.
I don't see the point in lending people like that money as he would drink it away. I kinda feel bad for not lending him it as he's my brother but I know I've done the right thing. I'm a hard worker who doesn't drink all of his money away.
Any views on this?
He's your brother. FFS man!
He lives with his girlfriend in a rented apartment and is out every single weekend boozing it up without fail. This past week, he's been out almost every single night at parties. I know that he spends a fortune in the bookies (betting) each week also.
Older brother owes me £937.00
Younger brother owes me £600.00
Mum owes me £2345.00
Dad owes me £80000.00 give or take i forget the exact figure
You are a bad person. Who isn't out every weekend boozing it up?.
If my brother asked me to lend him 50 quid I would hand it right over because I trust him to pay it back. He would then also will be more likely to help me out when I need a favour. You are his brother not his life coach, if you trust him to pay it back then I don't see why what he spends it on is that important.
If he was a junkie or a raving alky then obviously things would be different.
Then you have a better brother than i. He stole several things from me to pawn them off, reduced my father to near tears by pawning his strat and an old acoustic guitar that he inherited from somebody he was close to and quite obviously pawned off most of our Christmas gifts (since he told us what they were before hand). We know he drinks and smokes, and have found evidence of drugs so forgive me if i can see where the OP is coming from.