Soldato
I want to get more physical evidence inc photos, also from what im aware of this person he has been on the wrong side of the law a few times( just say a fair few hire cars) . I need to know this for sure as it might help with custody
Hopefully it's been less than six months since you found out (see below)
I'd just start divorce proceedings as soon as possible, collecting evidence isn't really going to help from now on. I'd be aware that her adulterous behaviour is not really going to be grounds for you getting custody unless you can prove it will have a continuing detrimental affect on your daughters wellbeing. A solicitor will be able to give advice on this.
2. Grounds for divorce
You must show there are good reasons for ending your marriage. You can give 5 grounds for a divorce.
Adultery
Your husband or wife had sex with someone else of the opposite sex, and you can no longer bear to live with them.
You can’t give adultery as a reason if you lived with your husband or wife for 6 months after you found out about it.
Unreasonable behaviour
Your husband or wife behaved so badly that you can no longer bear to live with them.
This could include:
physical violence
verbal abuse, eg insults or threats
drunkenness or drug-taking
refusing to pay for housekeeping
Desertion
Your husband or wife has left you:
without your agreement
without a good reason
to end your relationship
for more than 2 years in the past 2½ years
You can still claim desertion if you have lived together for up to a total of 6 months in this period.
You have lived apart for more than 2 years
You can get a divorce if you’ve lived apart for more than 2 years and both agree to the divorce.
Your husband or wife must agree in writing.
You have lived apart for more than 5 years
Living apart for more than 5 years is usually enough to get a divorce, even if your husband or wife disagrees with the divorce.