Caporegime
Mags, this has crossed my mind more than a couple of times.. I'm at that stage where I'm embarrassed thinking about the notion of counselling, like I should be able to resolve this together. Much more of this and I may think of that option deeper, primarily for both of us, but if necessary for myself.
For clarity, I meant have you (=you both) considered counselling together and I'd disagree that considering ways of dealing and hopefully fixing a problem you both share should be embarrassing although I get what you mean.