This thread is so depressing, full of self-centered materialistic guys unable to comprehend that our low birthrate is condemning Western European civilization to be replaced by more family orientated cultures from the East.
Not wanting kids and wanting your own space and being free to do whatever you want doesn't make you selfish.
Saying "I'm going to have kids because I want them" is just as "selfish" as saying you don't.
I don't want kids personally. I have a nephew who I dote on and that's enough responsibility for me.
I have a "cool Uncle" that I used to have a huge amount of fun with, and was less strict than my parents - it's a good relationship to have
This thread is so depressing, full of self-centered materialistic guys unable to comprehend that our low birthrate is condemning Western European civilization to be replaced by more family orientated cultures from the East.
As a parent, I'd strongly suggest that you avoid putting too much weight on the opinion of parents. They tend to be rather biased.
It's possible to love your own children unconditionally yet still find children annoying, typically those belonging to anyone else.
This thread is so depressing, full of self-centered materialistic guys unable to comprehend that our low birthrate is condemning Western European civilization to be replaced by more family orientated cultures from the East.
Most men don't want kids. That's why traditionally women brought kids up while the men buggered off somewhere and carried on their lives as usual. It really only affected the mother's life and since female brains are wired to nurture their lives weren't affected negatively either.
Nowadays men see kids as their responsibility as much as their partner's and to that the answer is almost always nah... I know guys that didn't want kids but had them anyway and it can really change your personality - but analysing how your life will be if you had kids you are really putting yourself in the mother's shoes if you are thinking about changing nappies, taking them to school, dealing with them crying etc... what about teaching them to play an instrument with you, going with them to football matches, camping, LAN party?
It's understandable that you don't want to deal with "bringing up" kids... but honestly unless you are a single dad then leave that to your partner. You will find that you bond best with the kids when they are a little older as that is the nature of men and once bonded you will be glad you had them.
Having kids myself I can't imagine my life without them in it. Before I had kids it was hard to imagine my life with them in it and how it would change, you just don't know, it's nothing that can be told to you by others.
I do however think the reasons given here for not wanting kids sounds very self centred. I put it down to the material temptations of modern life being allowed to win out over more traditional family values. Sign of the times.
Having kids myself I can't imagine my life without them in it. Before I had kids it was hard to imagine my life with them in it and how it would change, you just don't know, it's nothing that can be told to you by others.
I do however think the reasons given here for not wanting kids sounds very self centred. I put it down to the material temptations of modern life being allowed to win out over more traditional family values. Sign of the times.
You know what's even more self centred? People wanting and having kids and causing a massive burden on the environment and planet. You know what else is self centred? People who have hereditary diseases still having kids because "THEY want them" without any form of care for the childs well being.
If you like kids so much, why not adopt one of the many million children who don't have a family? Oh you want to have your own? How selfish of you.
Not having kids isn't self centred in the slightest, it's a personal choice, and parents who think people are "selfish" or "self centred" for not wanting kids whatever the reason need to pull their heads out of their asses.