Getting Married in June - Pre Nups / Advice

Soldato
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I would have a good look at the marriage vows again before you do anything else.

I cannot imagine having done a prenup with my wife, especially after 15 years! If I didn't trust her I wouldn't have married her. We had a joint account as soon as we lived together, it has never been an issue even once.
 
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It may be possible to protect your assets by marrying abroad in a jurisdiction that fully supports pre nuptial agreements, it's a very complex subject and you should take full counsel from a specialist, which in itself will be costly. After such a lengthy period of co-habitation and having kids it may well already be too late to keep full control of your assets though. Good luck :)
 
Soldato
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Yea I'm interested in when properties were acquired...

Hopefully it's not the mindset of 'over the last 15 years, whilst I was the only one working and bringing home the bacon, so they must be mine! All she did was stay at home and look after the kids!'
 
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None of that means things can't go wrong, strange things happen once they have you locked down, including less naked wrestling according to studies.

as you have been together for 15 years and have two kids you are pretty screwed if you separate anyway.

pretty much this. they have 2 kids already. been together 15 years. as soon as they get married regardless of what the pre-nup says she gets half.

he needs to stick all his assets into a company if he wishes to keep them. there is no point saying he is smart getting a pre-nup as it's worth nothing in this situation.
 
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I've been with my OH over 16yrs now. Not married....

We've seen a number of long term (10+ yr) relationships end really quickly after getting married. It's as if "having" to stay together because of a piece of paper ruins the "wanting" to be together.

It's because the relationships were already dead in the water and one half panics, gets over excited and tries to reignite any feelings by getting married / having kids / getting a puppy etc - then realising soon after they still have the same issues once the dust settles.
 
Soldato
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IANAL however isn't the point of a pre-nup to protect individual assets owned prior to the relationship? As others have pointed out, after 15 years and a couple of kids you are most likely wasting your time with one now in the UK.
 
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