Since moving to separates (I would never go back to all in one) I've come to the conclusion that routing is routing. For most home users it's not a consideration. As long as the router stays up and is easy enough to use then pick whatever. Most people's complaints are wifi related and you can't beat using something additional to the router for that. I think mesh systems will come into their own for this as time goes on, although I prefer APs for now.
I do wonder if net privacy will drive the need for more home users to consider network wide VPN on the router which would drive more consideration to that side of things. However until things improve, I couldn't see myself recommending an off the shelf consumer router for that. Even with flashed firmware, they are not powerful enough to saturate modern connections with encryption on and lack some of the policy based routing required to work in a modern connected household. So often I help someone whose netflix or iPlayer has stopped working, or Alexa suddenly thinks she is somewhere else unnecessarily because they've stuck some firmware on and not understood how to route things.
I believe if someone can nail an intuitive device to set which devices get routed via VPN or not and the device is powerful enough then that will be the router to recommend. Not sure we're there yet which is why I use pfSense.
