Mag to grid. I wouldn't stand that!
You don't deserve that sort of relationship.
When you mention that she was joking about a comment she made, she wasn't, but took it personally instead of saying sorry. The world revolves around herself.
I just had to do it, I broke up with her this week and I'm crossing between guilt, sadness and freedom of the way I was treated!
- Right from the start she was very clingy, begging to see me all the time and getting frustrated that I didn't see her enough, yet I was trying my utmost to spend nearly all week with her and through the most part I could just about manage because it made her happy. But things were about to go down hill and more than once did this happen. The first time it didn't matter what I did, even though she was happy and I was happy for example dancing together and kissing, the next day I'd get a text that I'd done something wrong! For example at one point she was angry at me because I gave some of our left over sweats to my family and that she bought them and I had no right to give them to anyone else... It didn't matter that we had an amazing time at an event, all that mattered to her were the sweats!
- I went to a hall both wearing costumes for a laugh and even when we came home ahem laughing with chocolate ( I'll say no more ), I again got a message as soon as I got home that I should've not have had fun like that and I was childish?!? ( She was doing it to ), what happened to that amazing time in each others arms.
- I had to put up with nearly a year of dealing with her trying to get a divorce from her cheating husband and she found it worrying to leave fully on occasions, because he was paying her phone bill and car... She did finally have a divorce but would tell me on many occasions it was final ( 3 times or more over so many months ), only many weeks later to say yep it's final again with new proof. The first time I was overjoyed for her but again she texted later that I wasn't happy enough and I should've taken her for a drink 0-o ( Again I couldn't do anything right )
- This came up again later when she brought her ex up and I only mentioned after she previously did over the paper work being final, because they kept on messing us and her around and she said yes it is deffo final now. Thus that night we were laughing, watched a fantastic movie and were in each others arms like nothing could get in the way....... I woke up that morning and found out she had texted my mum saying was the proof enough to be a part of the family. ( Nothing about last night, nothing about the time we shared ). My mum always got on with her, but she wanted more of our family time ( Me and my GF weren't married or living together )
- She also kept on going on about this damn bloke who she swore it was just a friend! But the first time we broke up ( I didn't break up with her ) I was unhapppy she went out to dinner with him and posted all the amazing food on her profile.. Funny I didn't get much of that but it did hurt she was having dinner with another guy and the fact she wanted to go over to his house 0-o
- Second time we broke up was over a big argument, because I phoned her up one day and she was in the same town he was and she could not only give me a straight answer to the friend she was with but nothing else made sense. This became a trust issue, she was hugely jealous of any woman being kind towards me even at a shop " Thanks love " one person went in a shop and she was angry over it, but hey atleast I didn't have dinner!
- We got back together again in the hopes things would change, we would give each other a bit more freedom but remain loyal and understand each other. It was fantastic for awhile, our love grew strong and there times when I said I could spend my life with this girl! But then it changed again - The texts started again that I'd done this that and the other wrong, the day after we had an amazing weekend. I was also being brought down too.... To say to me at one point regarding Christmas " I hope the presents you got me I like, I will like those presents wont I, are you sure i'll like them ". Really hurt as!
- I even got told off once because I purchased a bunch of stuff and I should've known she might've liked some of it and that by right it should've been hers! - Also going into a shop once and she picked up a dress and she got the hump because she liked it, I should've purchased it for her
- She wasn't well one day with a headache and was resting, so I told her to rest well and to get well soon and I'd talk to her later to see if she was ok. She had a right go at me AGAIN BY BLOODY TEXT that evening that I'd done photography on my way home, that I didn't tell her, that I didn't tell her where and I should've known she liked doing it. Even though she was resting. ( Again I could do no wrong, I ended up being afraid to answer the phone or txts )
- We again went out and had an amazing time, I came home feeling top of the world that love feeling people get when two are meant to be I guess? Ended up arguing over money and that I'd had accidentally spent some of hers it was only £3! When I wanted to treat her to snacks such as coke and popcorn. ( She told me to look after her money, I just forgot I put it in with mine as I paid £6) but I didn't get anything back that I loved her so much, that all that mattered was being with her, all that mattered to her was that £3 it was HERS, even though I said I'd look for it and pay her back the next day
It just went on and on - I wont lie to you, through all this I loved her but I also felt trapped, every time we spent time together those amazing moments I would watch my messages or texts waiting for that DING you did this, you didn't do that, over the smallest of things. Perhaps it was her BPD, but I broke up with her and yet still it's all my fault ( Nobody is a saint I had my moments), but I was never nasty to her, always told her she was beautiful, always praised her but I never knew what would happen if I came home.
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