Why? I'm now dating a girl from work who was engaged when I met her. If she likes you, she'll end it.
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yeah lets listen to the single angry dude over the happily married man with kids on relationship issues eh?
and no you dont have to change yourself, you may have to change who you go for though.
take me i'm greatly limited in my choice of partners because im non monogamous and come with the baggage of currently 3 regular partners, back to 4 in a a few weeks if things go to plan, but that's a toss up as im gambling on a new approach. ( hard balling a dominatrix is going to be an all or nothing bet, but certainly an exciting one)
does this mean i should dump everyone and become mongomus?
no it means i go and find girl/guy who is cool being number 5, or number 1 or that one night
think thats what the next dude will be saying about your mrs?
dude its the exact same for guys.
i know pretty middle of the road average beer gut types who can get a differnt date friday saturday and sunday off tinder
exactly
now you're getting it find the person for you.
plenty of dudes and girls out there into findom and all sorts of other stuff
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Just a joke that you're gonna be in the position her exfiance was some day
Probably!
I'm neither single or angry, I've been in a long term relationship for years and we own a house together. I know plenty of married guys with kids, most of their relationship advice would simply consist of bending over backwards to keep their partner happy so she lets him sleep with her now and again. Sound advice if you're desperately worried about being on your own and don't value your sovereignty as an individual.
I know you don't struggle with women Tefal, I don't think you probably ever have based on your posts in here, which is why you might not be best placed to give advice to men who do struggle. Your reality of having 4 women on the go and looking for your 5th is worlds apart from your average or below average looking guys experience with women.
Its been almost nine months since my ex left, but she's still texting me once a month asking for things. I've been pretty good at maintaining no contact, but I'm tempted to break that in order to ask her a question. Since I never found out at the time, I'd like to ask her why she didn't talk to me about how she felt. At least then I'd have been able to give my point of view. It's just one of those nagging questions that I'd like answering as a means of closure. Even if I don't like the answer.
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Don't do it, you'll just find another question you want an answer to after that one has been answered. Just cut contact totally so that she cannot contact you at all. You're just prolonging being able to move on otherwise.
Yep, just accept things and move on, no point getting answers as it won’t change anything
Yeah, that's a good point.
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I've been exactly where you are now when my first relationship ended. Spent 6 months like that and it just messes with your head. Best thing I ever did was cut contact totally. It just was hard that first time as I knew no better.
Good luck whatever you decide to do!
Good luck whatever you decide to do!
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Like the others have said. Keeping any sort of contact just prolongs the moving on process. Good luck!
Very true. She's contacted me several times since we broke up, the last time being a couple of weeks ago. I don't reply, but every time I get a message I'm both tempted to and annoyed at the same time. She knows I've got a lot on with university and work, so it's like she does it to be purposefully provocative. A friend of mine said it's a way of trying to control me. Sod that.
Best to go no contact. It will help You move on faster. If its over its over. Once you have truly moved on you won't even care about the answer or even be tempted. And asking her a question only prevents that.
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Unless there is an important reason she needs to contact you or you need to contact her for, I would just block her number now.
You need to focus on your future (Uni and work) not on the past (her)
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Go no contact. It is what I did. Bizarre when someone wants to break up with you and then still wants to remain friends and go for walks as if all is OK. Remove her from any social media, no communication. It just drags it out otherwise. My last communication with my ex asking how I was after sometime was 'yes, I had a great Christmas and New Year thanks with my girlfriends family'. Never heard back.
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My take is that you can be friendly with an ex but you can never be actual friends.
Usually there will be a mismatch of feelings on one side in the near term.
Plus saying to a new partner 'by the way I'm friends with my ex' is only going to cause potential hassle that you just dont need.
Yes, probably is just friends, but it will guarantee hinder finding someone new. Even if they 'are fine' with it
Only time you need to keep contact is with kids involved obviously.
Plus saying to a new partner 'by the way I'm friends with my ex' is only going to cause potential hassle that you just dont need.
Yes, probably is just friends, but it will guarantee hinder finding someone new. Even if they 'are fine' with it
Only time you need to keep contact is with kids involved obviously.