I don't even know why you went for Christmas given what she told you before it tbh. It sounds like you're just hurting yourself more by being around there.
It's an awful thing for her to do to you, and in your position I'd be looking for the first flight out of there quickly and as quietly as I could.
mainly went to see my son whos 3.. told each other we arent getting back together then end up playing happy families after 1 day.... like everything is normal but obviously I dont trust her anymore not to pull the same crap again the next time Im away for a month for work.
seems she gets lonely and bored when im not here, forgets what its like when we are together then ends up on some stupid chat app thinking people are genuine when they just are trying to get nudes or whatever from gullible women.
I was supposed to move over in the next few months permanently but told her its too big a risk for me after this crap.
I know her life is terribly boring and she must get despressed when Im away, she has no actual friends just a few women she only really talks with to make play dates for the kids and to have a coffee together.
I should have moved over here full time when our kid was born and everything wouod have been fine, dont really blame her for getting lonely, she never physically cheated, shes too honest to lie, literally broke it off with me because she had a crush on someone which is obviously bloody stupid and childish in thr first place. but it was some guy on the internet who would never meet her, never want to be a family with her etc
she even told me the guy had a wedding ring in one of the photos she saw of him, told her shes an idiot the guys obviously married and just messing around on the internet for some childish hot talks or trying to get nudes. lets face it internet chatrooms are full of bored married people, virgins or people pretending they are something thry are not, probably not even using their own photos but someone elses from facebook.
or they would be out in the real world getting laid. like this guy apparently a millionaire but spends his time chatting up women on randomchat instead of in a bar or club... sounds totally legit that someone under 40 with millions would actually do this.
nigerian prince emails are sounding more legit to me.