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Robert · 18 May 2019 at 12:13

I don’t know why you have a hard time getting this. You seem quite confrontational with your views? You had an easy time and your friends had a great time...cool.

Anyway had our first baby on Monday - been in the hospital since then as she’s jaundice so she’s getting double UV treatment. Quite stressful but getting there.

Tonyabrhm said:
Hmmmm

After reading back I can see where you are going with that. I shall bow out for now

AhhBisto · 18 May 2019 at 12:20

Robert said:
Anyway had our first baby on Monday - been in the hospital since then as she’s jaundice so she’s getting double UV treatment. Quite stressful but getting there.

Know your pain ours was 5 weeks prem, so in Special care baby unit for 2 weeks. I spent the time reading and getting tips from the staff. They might even do a CPR and Chocking exercises with you before discharge (which are scary but it's great knowledge).

Wishing your family all the best, hopefully you will all be home soon

Tonyabrhm · 18 May 2019 at 12:20

What views are they? I was just offering the other side to new dad's in that it is not always as hard as others make it out to be. If that is a contraversial view then so be it.

Perhaps my point was clouded when I got into discussion with the other chap which I acknowledged that in my last post.

Skynet5 · 18 May 2019 at 14:04

Tonyabrhm said:
What views are they? I was just offering the other side to new dad's in that it is not always as hard as others make it out to be. If that is a contraversial view then so be it.

Perhaps my point was clouded when I got into discussion with the other chap which I acknowledged that in my last post.

It's all good. Parenting is tough. It's not just about the child and how easy or hard they are, but also the parent and how they handle situations. We're all different, but one thing for sure, if some one needs help/support there is nothing more fulfilling than helping them in times of need. Never judge.

RoboCod · 18 May 2019 at 14:45

You're all doing God's work lads. Keep it up

essentially, so long as you stick to it and not be a dead beat dad, you've achieved level 1 in my eyes.

Devrij · 18 May 2019 at 18:29

I think we can move on from that discussion now gents.

Congrats @Robert on the new arrival. I think every parent gets some level of panic situation from the start. I think the saying that it's like having your heart outside your body is fairly accurate!

RoboCod · 18 May 2019 at 19:34

In this photo the lad on the left is 15months, my boy is 7months. Lanky bean! Looking at it, I can't help but mime "are you laughing at my slippers you ******?" as he's about to swing him a left hook

theone8181 · 18 May 2019 at 20:32

For those of you with older kids, what kind of clubs do you take them too? My 5 year old daughter does swimming once a week, but chatting to another mum from her class, she takes her daughter to 4 things a week which I thought was a lot (and difficult with having a second child and working late).

Kreeeee · 18 May 2019 at 20:47

Tonyabrhm · 18 May 2019 at 22:01

Kreeeee said:
I thought I was an amazing parent until my second one came along and I realised that I was just lucky with the temperament of the first one.

A tad unfair.. nothing to do with me thinking I am an amazing parent. Looks like I can't post here unless me and my children have problems

AhhBisto · 18 May 2019 at 22:17

Kreeeee said:
I thought I was an amazing parent until my second one came along and I realised that I was just lucky with the temperament of the first one.

My grandfather joined the Merchant navy during the war after starting a family...apparently it was safer lol.

subbytna · 18 May 2019 at 22:54

Kreeeee said:
I thought I was an amazing parent until my second one came along and I realised that I was just lucky with the temperament of the first one.

Exactly my point.

SpeedFreak · 19 May 2019 at 00:02

RoboCod said:
In this photo the lad on the left is 15months, my boy is 7months. Lanky bean! Looking at it, I can't help but mime "are you laughing at my slippers you ******?" as he's about to swing him a left hook

A pretty tall guy at work shared the following a few weeks back, your picture reminded me of it (in a nice way

)

https://www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/tall-man-thinks-its-an-achievement-20190215182505

ci_newman · 19 May 2019 at 07:20

theone8181 said:
For those of you with older kids, what kind of clubs do you take them too? My 5 year old daughter does swimming once a week, but chatting to another mum from her class, she takes her daughter to 4 things a week which I thought was a lot (and difficult with having a second child and working late).

It's going to vary by age and schedule and what the clubs are. Kid in school yet?

My 7 year old does Beavers and swimming each week. He used to do more, but family time and homework both suffered for it.

IMO, a couple of clubs is ideal

theone8181 · 19 May 2019 at 07:26

ci_newman said:
It's going to vary by age and schedule and what the clubs are. Kid in school yet?

My 7 year old does Beavers and swimming each week. He used to do more, but family time and homework both suffered for it.

IMO, a couple of clubs is ideal

She started last September. Tbh I think she'd like rainbows however I'm not sure she'll go without one of us.

azazl187 · 19 May 2019 at 07:31

Kreeeee said:
I thought I was an amazing parent until my second one came along and I realised that I was just lucky with the temperament of the first one.

In my experience the second child required almost 3 times the work. When you have two it's like having to input 3 times the time of having one as you don't get any down time

ci_newman · 19 May 2019 at 07:57

theone8181 said:
She started last September. Tbh I think she'd like rainbows however I'm not sure she'll go without one of us.

and that sentence there is probably why you should encourage her to start

This is the right age to be introducing a bit of independence and mixing with new people.

Kreeeee · 19 May 2019 at 08:19

azazl187 · 19 May 2019 at 09:05

Kreeeee said:
Agreed. Two under two often feels oppressive.

I have one at 5 and one at 1.5 and its crazy how much time you have to put in over having just the one.

RoboCod · 19 May 2019 at 09:32

SpeedFreak said:
A pretty tall guy at work shared the following a few weeks back, your picture reminded me of it (in a nice way )

https://www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/tall-man-thinks-its-an-achievement-20190215182505

That is pretty funny!