It’s not about controlling kids, if that was the end goal what would the kids do when their parents are not there? Kids need to control themselves and to do that they need to be taught skills by their parent(s).
I may decided to let my daughter scream like a total lunatic in a shop and do nothing about it, does that mean I’m not in control? Or that I’m a bad parent? Or could I just be letting her be an idiot without brining any attention to the matter so that there is less chance of it reoccurring.
For the op, I’d try reducing the time slowly rather than cutting it completely. It’s an addiction you’re trying to fight so removing it will result in your child going in to fight or flight mode and there’s no reasoning with that.
Well before the iPad or whatever comes out, discuss what is an appropriate amount of time, get her to agree and then set a timer as she starts using it.
I may decided to let my daughter scream like a total lunatic in a shop and do nothing about it, does that mean I’m not in control? Or that I’m a bad parent? Or could I just be letting her be an idiot without brining any attention to the matter so that there is less chance of it reoccurring.
For the op, I’d try reducing the time slowly rather than cutting it completely. It’s an addiction you’re trying to fight so removing it will result in your child going in to fight or flight mode and there’s no reasoning with that.
Well before the iPad or whatever comes out, discuss what is an appropriate amount of time, get her to agree and then set a timer as she starts using it.