Soldato
This, pretty much. I have 2 step sons who I've brought up since 2 and 4. They're 12 and 14 now. They don't see their dad because he's a tool, has had many kids with different women and then ****** them off. He beat my wife while they were together, so I get it. The boys don't want to see their dad, but if they did I'd support it. You have to. It's up to them to come to terms with their own stuff. It doesn't take away anything that you've done for them over the years, but sometimes we need closure of our own, or to come to our own conclusions ourselves. We have to respect that, and it might lead to hurt for them and you, but you have to support that and just be there for them.Say to her "I love you, you are my daughter and I am worried about this because I don't want to see you hurt. However, you're an adult and I respect you can make your own decisions but I want you to know I'm here for you always!"