how much time do you spend alone?

moon man · 28 Jun 2019 at 20:39

since splitting from my very long term partner(we are talking 4,5 years now) ive pretty much isolated myself tbh ,my life is amazing and i spend 3 or 4 days a week walking the coastpaths and surfing ,but i can spend 4 days without a proper face to face convo
my kids (growm up)tell me to use meet up but im not a social person and if im been honest i dont think i have much to give.,im fine at work but after the shift finishes (alternating 4 then 3 days a week) im billy no mates(think this bothers my kids more than me)
so just wondering how much time you guys spend alone

Dis86 · 28 Jun 2019 at 20:40

Next to non

Tone1979 · 28 Jun 2019 at 20:42

Quite a bit but I don't mind my own company.

I work from home most of the time and unless my wife and baby are in, I am pretty much on my own.

before we had a child I was on my own for 12 hours a day on average though I do have a network of mates I see when I am out kitesurfing.

Randomface74 · 28 Jun 2019 at 20:54

pretty much all the time

BowdonUK · 28 Jun 2019 at 20:57

Most of the time.

It sounds like your relationship hit the 5 year split.

I remember when I split from a long term fiancee it felt weird her not being in my life anymore. I just threw myself in to my hobbies and it soon distracted my mind. The online world is more social these days. But if you want real social interaction join a club of some kind, or go down to the local pub.

I hear the ramblers scene is quite big in some parts of the country. I wonder if they have clubs you can join.

moon man · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:01

4.5 years since split but the relationship was over 20 yrs ,looked at the bodmin meet up but thats as far as i get

Thekwango · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:08

Dis86 said:
Next to non

Same.

I’d love the OP’s life!!

Rincewindle · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:12

I spend far too much time alone.

Realised it on monday when my brother came round to see me. first time i have seen him in about 4 months.

We were talking and he said what's wrong with your voice. and i realised i was realy croaky when talking and could hardly get my words out..

Realised then that i actually had not spoken a word to anyone in about 9 - 10 weeks, not even the neighbours.

Quite worrying realy. you just get set in a rutt and before you know it you are isolated and not talking.

Colonel_Klinck · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:15

I work on my own and although I live with one of my best mates (bought his ex-wife’s share of the house) I’m happy in my own company.

CREATIVE!11 · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:16

moon man said:
since splitting from my very long term partner(we are talking 4,5 years now) ive pretty much isolated myself tbh ,my life is amazing and i spend 3 or 4 days a week walking the coastpaths and surfing ,but i can spend 4 days without a proper face to face convo
my kids (growm up)tell me to use meet up but im not a social person and if im been honest i dont think i have much to give.,im fine at work but after the shift finishes (alternating 4 then 3 days a week) im billy no mates(think this bothers my kids more than me)
so just wondering how much time you guys spend alone

Pretty much the same although i'm younger early thirties...

Barely actually hang out with people spend more time alone on pc / doing other things alone like projects diy etc. Probably not the best....but it is what it is?

moon man · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:19

yeh exactly ,i think its watching everybody on the glasto live thing on iplayer got me thimking

moon man · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:25

creep by radiohead is going to be my funeral song tbh ,i dont belong here, blah blah

DXP55 · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:25

When I start talking to my mate he gets this far away look in his eyes - after 10 min I feed him and plonk him on my bed where he sleeps for 12 hrs then I let him out to catch mice and rabbit's - Got a wife but she is always in the garden - I too have a croaky voice. other than that I am a Billy no mates but I am happy on my own.

moon man · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:29

appreciate thr homest replies

bloodiedathame · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:32

The commute to work is about the only time alone. Or when wife and kids are asleep. They went away for 4 days last month, God it was bliss.

mmj_uk · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:37

Some people can't stand to be alone whereas others prefer it, I think as with anything it's best to try to find a healthy balance. If you spend all of your time with other people you probably won't get a lot of time to ponder things, if you spend too much time alone you might become a bit socially withdrawn but if you have a job I doubt that's the case.

With stuff like online gaming anyone can socialise in the comfort of their own home nowadays.

FoxEye · 28 Jun 2019 at 21:57

Does time spent winding you lot up count? No? All the time, then.

dodg3rman · 28 Jun 2019 at 22:22

I get up after my wife goes to work and then im on my own until she gets back. She goes to bed at 9pm aswell , then she goes out every Saturday on her own to destress from the week. So all in all pretty much all the time apart from 3 hours each night and Sundays we spend together.

This is since I got pensioned off last year at 49 and im very happy pootling about.

azazl187 · 28 Jun 2019 at 22:23

I work on my own sometimes for around 10 hours a day but any other time I have 2 kids and a wife demanding interaction from me

azazl187 · 28 Jun 2019 at 22:24

dodg3rman said:
I get up after my wife goes to work and then im on my own until she gets back. She goes to bed at 9pm aswell , then she goes out every Saturday on her own to destress from the week. So all in all pretty much all the time apart from 3 hours each night and Sundays we spend together.

This is since I got pensioned off last year at 49 and im very happy pootling about.

Why can't she destress with you? Somethings is up if she cant