The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

rebel rebel · 3 Aug 2019 at 00:06

I'm average to look at but can be a charming SOB when the need arises. And she did make a point of underlining her name on the order and saying contact me if you need something. Which in my book was practically an invite to peruse her Cyprus 2018 pics.

RoboCod · 3 Aug 2019 at 01:09

rebel rebel said:
How high up on the creepy scale is adding on Facebook, a saleswoman you spoke to in a shop?

1 being this isn't in anyway inappropriate, i'm so glad you ~~stalked~~ found me! And 10 being omg you psychopath i'm calling the police!

Sounds creepy, given the circumstances. Mind you, I've done creepier and still pulled so...

rebel rebel · 3 Aug 2019 at 01:18

RoboCod said:
Sounds creepy, given the circumstances. Mind you, I've done creepier and still pulled so...

Oh there's no doubt that it's creepy, just how creepy is it?

FTR we did speak for around 30mins whilst she inputted the details on the computer. But before I could ask her out, her manager called her to another part of the store, and finished the order herself.

Threepwood · 3 Aug 2019 at 02:29

rebel rebel said:
Oh there's no doubt that it's creepy, just how creepy is it?

FTR we did speak for around 30mins whilst she inputted the details on the computer. But before I could ask her out, her manager called her to another part of the store, and finished the order herself.

Why do you have to add her? Cant you just send a message? Thats less creepy no? Or, what about going back into the shop in a totally normal chance of talking to her again?

rebel rebel · 3 Aug 2019 at 02:50

Threepwood said:
Why do you have to add her? Cant you just send a message? Thats less creepy no? Or, what about going back into the shop in a totally normal chance of talking to her again?

If less creepy is sending a message, then adding her is medium creepy.. Maybe a 3 or 4 out of 10 on the creepy scale?

I won't be in that area in the near future so thought Facebook would be the best way.

I had to create an account because I didn't have one, and for some reason I presumed you could only send messages to people on the friends list. Otherwise I would have messaged instead.

RoboCod · 3 Aug 2019 at 06:42

You specifically made a Facebook account to find her and add her?

yep, sliding right on the creepy scale.

rebel rebel · 3 Aug 2019 at 10:33

But she wouldn't know it's a brand new account, just one that isn't used much.

And going back to the store specifically to see her could also be perceived as creepy. Unless I could pull off the nonchalant "Oh hi I'm glad I bumped into you again!" move.

.Lethal · 3 Aug 2019 at 10:35

rebel rebel said:
But she wouldn't know it's a brand new account, just one that isn't used much.

And going back to the store specifically to see her could also be perceived as creepy. Unless I could pull off the nonchalant "Oh hi I'm glad I bumped into you again!" move.

Message her for the ocuk lulz, just post back results

rebel rebel · 3 Aug 2019 at 10:39

.Lethal said:
Message her for the ocuk lulz, just post back results

If she accepts the friend request, I will. She had over 900 friends so she may just accept all requests. Either that or she's really popular.

Edit: And with the name I picked (Basically from the game What would your porn star name be?) I don't think she will be able to resist.

hurfdurf · 3 Aug 2019 at 11:16

So you used an anonymous profile? That's both creepy and cowardly. Just go back in and ask her out dude.

Problem is, a lot of guys mistake professional customer service for actual affection with female shop staff. Hope this isn't the case here.

rebel rebel · 3 Aug 2019 at 12:04

You do realise this situation is completely being done for a laugh don't you? Just to see how it turns out. Sense the tone.

Facebook is unbelievable really, you browse someone's profile and instantly get access to all their friends and relatives. It's a stalkers wet dream.

tom_e · 3 Aug 2019 at 12:06

rebel rebel said:
You do realise this situation is completely being done for a laugh don't you? Just to see how it turns out. Sense the tone.

Facebook is unbelievable really, you browse someone's profile and instantly get access to all their friends and relatives. It's a stalkers wet dream.

Not if someone's been sensible with their privacy settings and who they actually accept as friends.

On Holiday · 3 Aug 2019 at 12:45

malachi · 3 Aug 2019 at 13:35

WoodyUK said:
What am I even reading

Tactics of a Stalker 2019 Edition.

arctine · 3 Aug 2019 at 15:51

WoodyUK said:
What am I even reading

The deranged thoughts of someone completely unhitched from reality.

She is going to creeped out/terrified. I can't believe he thinks going back to the shop to ask her out would be perceived as creepy so instead he's made a facebook account to message her.

She was just doing her job. She is probably not interested in you. You are a ******* weirdo mate.

Josh · 3 Aug 2019 at 15:53

yEh BuT iTs FoR a LaUgH DoE Lolz

Utter maniac

JBuk · 3 Aug 2019 at 16:12

arctine said:
The deranged thoughts of someone completely unhitched from reality.

She is going to creeped out/terrified. I can't believe he thinks going back to the shop to ask her out would be perceived as creepy so instead he's made a facebook account to message her.

She was just doing her job. She is probably not interested in you. You are a ******* weirdo mate.

And equally she may be interested, you don’t know if you don’t ask! I met a girl when I booked a holiday at the travel agents where she worked, I bumped into her a few days later at a bar and she was quite forward and made it clear she was very interested

the Facebook thing, that’s not something I would advise anyone (even if it wasn’t to be taken as serious) , saying that I’ve had a few friend requests over the years from people I barely knew and I never felt creeped out by it

Roar87 · 3 Aug 2019 at 16:34

rebel rebel said:
I'm average to look at but can be a charming SOB when the need arises. And she did make a point of underlining her name on the order and saying contact me if you need something. Which in my book was practically an invite to peruse her Cyprus 2018 pics.

What were buying though, did she have much incentive to be extra nice to you, were you spending a lot of money? I don't think I'd add her to Facebook as that's kind of abusing the fact she gives out her name to customers, did she give you a phone number or anything? I'm honestly not sure there's a non-creepy way of asking her out using the name she's given you because she genuinely could've just been acting nice to you because you're a customer, then again she could've genuinely been interested. You need to be super objective about it and be critical about what she said to you and how her body language and tone of voice was.

I would also ignore the guys flaming you for asking a girl out, there's literally nothing wrong with asking someone you're attracted to out and you lot need to understand this fact. You're projecting your own insecurities by suggesting he's being weird for potentially asking out a girl he thinks likes him.

arctine · 3 Aug 2019 at 16:55

JBuk said:
And equally she may be interested, you don’t know if you don’t ask!

You think that's the issue here?

JBuk · 3 Aug 2019 at 17:09

arctine said:
You think that's the issue here?

Of course not, should I only reply to the parts of your post you want me to?

In any case it may be perceived to be creepy by some but for all we know they may have genuinely hit it off and she may like the interest, in that case she herself may not see it as creepy

Who knows , from the way a lot of the younger guys at work use social media it seems the done thing to "friend" anyone you meet