Apologising to someone 20 years later

builder22 · 11 Aug 2019 at 16:33

or she goes loco because she's only recently managed to get over it...back to square one for her therapy

V F · 11 Aug 2019 at 16:38

builder22 said:
or she goes loco because she's only recently managed to get over it...back to square one for her therapy

Script in the making. I miss those good comedies.

Deleted member 77746 · 11 Aug 2019 at 16:42

Minibiker said:
Whats her name ill pop in a tell her your sorry for what you done a few years back as I am in the same town

EVH said:
She’s probably forgotten which will make his apology even sweeter. Do it

Even better!

We NEED pictures! Give us all some pics OP. Dare you! Take a rose with you as well to say sorry and record it. (with her permission of course)

Participant · 11 Aug 2019 at 16:46

FeFiDoh said:
I am not saying she has ended up working in a supermarket because of me, as if by the way that is itself is somehow some giant unjust thing to happen. Nothing wrong with it at all so why that would be an issue I don't know.

I wasn't talking about the supermarket for the record. You said she went a bit cray at the time.

FoxEye · 11 Aug 2019 at 16:55

slipperydave said:
you were 15. i doubt she even remembers.

Lots of people with early-onset dementia in this thread

You/I/she probably does remember stuff from that time if it had a significant emotional impact.

Sure you don't remember what you had for lunch when you were 15, but there will be lots of incidents that stay with you, and likely will for the rest of your non-senile life.

builder22 · 11 Aug 2019 at 16:57

the other potentially funny thing is if it's not even who you think it is!

Tek81 · 11 Aug 2019 at 17:05

Ask your GF for advice.

V F · 11 Aug 2019 at 17:09

FoxEye said:
Lots of people with early-onset dementia in this thread

You/I/she probably does remember stuff from that time if it had a significant emotional impact.

Sure you don't remember what you had for lunch when you were 15, but there will be lots of incidents that stay with you, and likely will for the rest of your non-senile life.

Nah, people who dwell on trivial stuff.

glenimp617 · 11 Aug 2019 at 17:22

tek81 said:
Ask your GF for advice.

That's the last thing he's thinking of doing.... Either way, bad advice

Tek81 · 11 Aug 2019 at 17:41

TheOracle said:
That's the last thing he's thinking of doing.... Either way, bad advice

Yeah, it's almost as if I was being sarcastic :rolleyes:

Participant · 11 Aug 2019 at 18:15

TheOracle said:
That's the last thing he's thinking of doing.... Either way, bad advice

Oh come on man. You actually thought he was serious with that? That's pretty profound simplicity.

Rannoch · 11 Aug 2019 at 18:44

Apologise and ask for a 3some.

Tom|Nbk · 11 Aug 2019 at 18:55

Apologise and ask if she gets staff discount.

Malevolence · 11 Aug 2019 at 19:08

FeFiDoh said:
Hey all,
Recently I was at a local supermarket and I am certain I see someone working there that I went to secondary school with. We we were together for around a year when we were 15. I am now 34.

I treated her kind of crappy and broke up with her. She spiralled a little bit and it was a little messy.

I haven't seen or spoken to her since school, she wasn't on Facebook at any point I was etc..

Would it be weird/awkward and unnecessary to apologise for being how I behaved in school?
Is it best left unsaid and just write it off as being kids?

It does bug me a little that I did it to her but in apologising am I just trying to make myself feel better for something she probably doesn't care about?

What would you do?

Just leave it. Picking at that old scab in this day and age could lead to you being #metoo'd

bainbridge · 11 Aug 2019 at 21:01

I think apologising is a good idea but I'd test the water first. Say hello and see if she recognises you, if she seems ok then simply say what you said in your opening post, it will only take 15 seconds.

How she handles it is up to her but at least you acknowledged your bad behaviour towards her.

malachi · 11 Aug 2019 at 21:15

Apologise if its going to make you feel better.

lakitu · 11 Aug 2019 at 21:40

FeFiDoh said:
What's that movie with Adam Sandler where he apologies to Steve Buschemi and gets taken off his hit list? Maybe that will happen.

Billy Maddison

Nitefly · 11 Aug 2019 at 21:57

I say do it. Why not! Get it off your chest and it’s done. Feeling a plonker about it afterwards at least allows you to move on.

bloodiedathame · 11 Aug 2019 at 22:09

All kids are a-holes and did stupid ****. You're over it, she's over it. No need to say anything.

Brizzles · 11 Aug 2019 at 22:15

Unless you left her after concieving ginger triplets, i doubt she gives a toss about you