Misgendering? Sam Smith is now they or them, not he or him?!
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OOH snap
Man of Honour
It can (and has been for a while) be used as a singular pronoun too
Caporegime
I already view him as a “Who?” 
I think my issue with it is purely one of how it is taken. On reflection, I think I worded the OP badly.
If I meet someone, and they tell me they are non binary and prefer to be called by a specific way, I will certainly do my very best to accommodate them. That was never a problem, but the idea that I accidentally refer to Sam Smith (who I only vaguely knew about before this thread) in the wrong way should not be offensive to him, and I guess that provided people dont just use this an excuse to beat someone over it in public, then that's fine!
Mistakes happen, and unless someone is wilfully using the wrong term to upset you, then there not much to it really.
If I meet someone, and they tell me they are non binary and prefer to be called by a specific way, I will certainly do my very best to accommodate them. That was never a problem, but the idea that I accidentally refer to Sam Smith (who I only vaguely knew about before this thread) in the wrong way should not be offensive to him, and I guess that provided people dont just use this an excuse to beat someone over it in public, then that's fine!
Mistakes happen, and unless someone is wilfully using the wrong term to upset you, then there not much to it really.
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Something I don't understand and I am probably missing something really obvious, is that how someone can look at another gender and say "I feel like I'm supposed to be that gender" or like Sam Smith says "I am neither of these". How do they know what another gender feels like to know they should be like that when they have been in their body their whole lives? I get it may be to do with how they grow up. Seeing boys plays with trains, girl with dolls type thing, but then that surely is learned behaviour and not innate in their minds and not "I have always been an X and was born into the wrong body".
Possibly going to get destroyed for this comment, but my question is genuine and not intended to be offensive in any way at all.
Possibly going to get destroyed for this comment, but my question is genuine and not intended to be offensive in any way at all.
Soldato
Surely, 'it' is more appropriate. I mean - that's singular, and doesn't presume gender.
Caporegime
'Sam Smith in latest bid for relevance.'
Soldato
Only by people with mental health issues.
Soldato
"Excuse me Sir" to become "Excuse me it/you/object/human being/squealy singer thing"
Man of Honour
"hey Amazon customer services called for you"
"Oh, what did they say?"
"Oh look someone left their phone"
Etc.
I'm curious how do you navigate daily life never using a singular they/their?
Soldato
All nuttier than a fruit cake.
Soldato
Bad examples as customer services is plural and I never mentioned “their”.
Ok "the doctor called"
"I hope they don't need their phone"
I'm curious how you talk not to use singular they.
Really I am
Associate
Is there some way we can make him pay double tax or something since he's now a they?
Soldato
They don’t talk. This forum is their only means of communication with the outside world.
Man of Honour
I put this is another thread not so long ago.
We were discussing a relative dying and this girl who is the girlfriend of the bloke whose Mum is dying totally ruined the thread because someone called her 'her'.
We were discussing a relative dying and this girl who is the girlfriend of the bloke whose Mum is dying totally ruined the thread because someone called her 'her'.