I need some advice on if I'm being unreasonable with my views on my partner.
My ex is moving away with my kids meaning I cant reasonably have them during the week when they are at school as it would be an hours drive just to get them to school in the morning, due to my shift pattern it works out I can have them 3 out of 5 weekends and extended periods when my time off during school holidays (the weekends I cant have them I am working 12h either days or night shifts), this averages around 8/9 days a month which doesn't seem enough to me, prior to the move it averaged 11 days a month as I could take them to school.
this is were the issue with my partner comes in, she works mon-fri 8-4 meaning her only time off is the weekend, now I know I'm struggling with the change and seeing my kids less but when updating out weekly planner she made a comment about how we never get a day off together anymore. now yes this is a valid point, but it felt like she wants me to see my kids less so we can have more time just the two of us, this escalated when we was looking at going away next year and the two times she wanted just the two of us to go away I happen to have the kids and plan to take them away, this was followed by some grunting and a bad mood as if I was refusing to go away, I suggested 2 other months where it was possible but they weren't suitable apparently - both of these mean I have to cancel seeing my kids for a weekend but I don't mind this once or twice a year but that's a max.
I know I need to sit down and talk this through with her but I think I need to stress to her that I had my kids when we got together and they are my #1 priority, and will be for the next 10+ years, and I don't want to be in a relationship where she's going to resent me seeing my kids every weekend off I have.
I will also add, I live with my partner and have done for 9 months now, so I see her every day, yes I don't get to spend a full day with her but I see my kids 8/9 days a month and even 3-4 of them will only be after picking them up from school on a Friday.
so, am I being unreasonable for being upset with her views?