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- 16 Apr 2016
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My fiancé started a new job in June. Long story short, there had been crossed wires somehow and his new job is doing something he's never done before. It seems he and the employer used the same phrases and words, but it means completely different things in each of their industries... He's given it a good go, but the new job isn't something he's ever done or enjoys, and he's struggling. It's got especially bad recently and he's lost 7kg, he isn't sleeping and he says he's got a feeling in the pit of his stomach all the time. My instinct is that he'll have a breakdown, or crash (he's commuting an hour and a half each way) and that it isn't worth it...
But we're in the middle of buying a house. It hinges on his employment because I'm self-employed and don't have enough accounts yet. We have the memorandums, the mortgage offer, the solicitors are working on searches at the moment. I chased up today and have just been told that our sellers have pulled out of their purchase and are looking for a new one, which may mean we're back to being 18 weeks from completion again. That feels like such a long time to ask him to drag this out.
Our apartment is okay. It needs some work and the builder who is buying it was able to do that himself and then rent it out. We didn't want to, because it's a one-bed and we've outgrown it a bit, plus I'm working and living in the same room. But we'd make it work... It'd be lovely to have an office room and a bigger house and a little garden, but they aren't essentials. We've been happy here. The apartment mortgage is low now, 3 x lower than the house will be, and I could easily cover it. He could leave and look for something new. We would incur fees - some solicitors, the EA - but not as badly as if we have to pull out after surveys and things, because he's lost his job.
I have no idea what to do for the best. My instinct is that his health tops everything but he desperately wanted to hold out for the house, and he was struggling enough when he thought it was six weeks away... and it's not just me that can see it, his boss keeps asking him, too. I feel like we're on borrowed time.
But we're in the middle of buying a house. It hinges on his employment because I'm self-employed and don't have enough accounts yet. We have the memorandums, the mortgage offer, the solicitors are working on searches at the moment. I chased up today and have just been told that our sellers have pulled out of their purchase and are looking for a new one, which may mean we're back to being 18 weeks from completion again. That feels like such a long time to ask him to drag this out.
Our apartment is okay. It needs some work and the builder who is buying it was able to do that himself and then rent it out. We didn't want to, because it's a one-bed and we've outgrown it a bit, plus I'm working and living in the same room. But we'd make it work... It'd be lovely to have an office room and a bigger house and a little garden, but they aren't essentials. We've been happy here. The apartment mortgage is low now, 3 x lower than the house will be, and I could easily cover it. He could leave and look for something new. We would incur fees - some solicitors, the EA - but not as badly as if we have to pull out after surveys and things, because he's lost his job.
I have no idea what to do for the best. My instinct is that his health tops everything but he desperately wanted to hold out for the house, and he was struggling enough when he thought it was six weeks away... and it's not just me that can see it, his boss keeps asking him, too. I feel like we're on borrowed time.