Soldato
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- 19 Nov 2011
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Hi all,
Just want to get a few things off my chest. Not really sure how to explain it, or why it has come on so strong but its such and odd feeling and I feel it more and more.
My head feels like it is spinning inside, if that makes sense with a heaviness feeling? Any anticpation for any event gives me anxiety and i'm really strugling with it. My other half also struggles and has done for the last few months and I am trying to be there for her in the best way I can be and try to distract her and make her feel better.
The problem is, we have recently moved bought a house together and the stress of it all has really worked me up - It's worked us both up. Everything feel through on the way up to it, and has to work out anohter way to buy this house, eventually it all went thorugh - at the time I thought 'well the hard bit is done' it really isn't.
Endless jobs, just haven't stopped in these last few weeks and literally everything seems to be taking longer than it needs to, or breaks, or doesn't work. The second week in I went to open the garage door after being at it for 12 hours straight (Painting, sawing, moving boxes, driving etc...) and the door fell off and I almost lost it and just wanted to curl up and cry. Admittedly, we have done so much in these last few weeks and it's like a new house with new floors, new gloss, light fittings etc... I know I should feel proud and furfilled but right now I just feel fed up and down and can't seem to pull myself out of it. Everyone asks me how it's going and I don;t feel happy, just meh.
I just want to sit in the bedroom and do nothing, not move just sit while trying to stop all these thoughts running through my head. Wishing I could just soffocate them out of my mind. labido is down. could cry at any minute. Barely sleep, if I do it isn't good sleep.
Me and the other half had a talk about making time for us, which we are working on now instead of just basically doing the do all the time along with the needs and wants and a few issues, that went well.
Now i'm very selfless, so my fiancee and two girls come before me always, it's always been like that. But i really don't know what to do with myself, i'm happy that I have everything i've always wanted, own house, my girls, a few friends etc... but after everything and dealing with anxiety and feeling on edge whenever I have to make any decision is really tiring me out.
Maybe i'm burnt out. If i'm not doing stuff in the house, or going to the tip, i'm making sure everyone else is ok. Firework season isn't great for us, no one likes them and the dog goes nuts making the anxiety of everyone else but me worse, but in turn makes me worse because i'm trying to make sure everytone is okay because I can't just leave them. A massive one went off when i went out for 10 mins yesterday and everyone was in bits.
Maybe 10 mins for myself in the meantime but I'm finding myself having thoughts about stuff I don't want and also being OCD makes matters worse.
I haven't been on medication for over 3 years and I was doing so well, and don't really want to go on them again as they made me so much worse. Just seem unable to relax.
I can't seem to make decisions, people talk to me and I struggle to take everything in, I feel like i'm on another planet. I'm normally sensitive, but recently even more so, everything is getting to me a little and i'm trying to look 'normal' from the olutside, and be loving all while i'm musting inside my own head. My other half knows about my problems, but I can't lay everything out on her as she is struggling too and I want to be a man and hold her up and be the rock she needs at this time.
I know things will get better, i'm just struggling so hard.
Got modern warefare yesterday so might try to distract myself on there.
Sorry for the wall of text.
Just want to get a few things off my chest. Not really sure how to explain it, or why it has come on so strong but its such and odd feeling and I feel it more and more.
My head feels like it is spinning inside, if that makes sense with a heaviness feeling? Any anticpation for any event gives me anxiety and i'm really strugling with it. My other half also struggles and has done for the last few months and I am trying to be there for her in the best way I can be and try to distract her and make her feel better.
The problem is, we have recently moved bought a house together and the stress of it all has really worked me up - It's worked us both up. Everything feel through on the way up to it, and has to work out anohter way to buy this house, eventually it all went thorugh - at the time I thought 'well the hard bit is done' it really isn't.
Endless jobs, just haven't stopped in these last few weeks and literally everything seems to be taking longer than it needs to, or breaks, or doesn't work. The second week in I went to open the garage door after being at it for 12 hours straight (Painting, sawing, moving boxes, driving etc...) and the door fell off and I almost lost it and just wanted to curl up and cry. Admittedly, we have done so much in these last few weeks and it's like a new house with new floors, new gloss, light fittings etc... I know I should feel proud and furfilled but right now I just feel fed up and down and can't seem to pull myself out of it. Everyone asks me how it's going and I don;t feel happy, just meh.
I just want to sit in the bedroom and do nothing, not move just sit while trying to stop all these thoughts running through my head. Wishing I could just soffocate them out of my mind. labido is down. could cry at any minute. Barely sleep, if I do it isn't good sleep.
Me and the other half had a talk about making time for us, which we are working on now instead of just basically doing the do all the time along with the needs and wants and a few issues, that went well.
Now i'm very selfless, so my fiancee and two girls come before me always, it's always been like that. But i really don't know what to do with myself, i'm happy that I have everything i've always wanted, own house, my girls, a few friends etc... but after everything and dealing with anxiety and feeling on edge whenever I have to make any decision is really tiring me out.
Maybe i'm burnt out. If i'm not doing stuff in the house, or going to the tip, i'm making sure everyone else is ok. Firework season isn't great for us, no one likes them and the dog goes nuts making the anxiety of everyone else but me worse, but in turn makes me worse because i'm trying to make sure everytone is okay because I can't just leave them. A massive one went off when i went out for 10 mins yesterday and everyone was in bits.
Maybe 10 mins for myself in the meantime but I'm finding myself having thoughts about stuff I don't want and also being OCD makes matters worse.
I haven't been on medication for over 3 years and I was doing so well, and don't really want to go on them again as they made me so much worse. Just seem unable to relax.
I can't seem to make decisions, people talk to me and I struggle to take everything in, I feel like i'm on another planet. I'm normally sensitive, but recently even more so, everything is getting to me a little and i'm trying to look 'normal' from the olutside, and be loving all while i'm musting inside my own head. My other half knows about my problems, but I can't lay everything out on her as she is struggling too and I want to be a man and hold her up and be the rock she needs at this time.
I know things will get better, i'm just struggling so hard.
Got modern warefare yesterday so might try to distract myself on there.
Sorry for the wall of text.