Soldato
Ok, I'm calling it. It's a wind up.
I am I being unreasonable here?
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Yeah gonna call BS on this now, never met in person and wish you could marry but she can't get divorced in the Philippines, how much has she cost you so far OP.
I'm with your parents on this, they are looking out for your best interests!!!
Soldato
Man of Honour
This is like the first time you get a phone call from 'Amazon' saying they have taken £39.99 out of your account for Amazon Prime and just for a second you believe them.
Soldato
About 15 months ago I hired someone into my team with Autism at 21 fresh from university.
that person has become the most skilled developer on the team with un unparalleled attention to detail. Being at work in 15 months they have gone from a shy recluse to getting involved socially just as much as anyone else in their age bracket.
To watch the change has even heart warming and it’s opened me up to perhaps previous prejudices I may have had. It’s sad that people don’t give others chances Mx
Don’t let anyone tell you, you can’t do something. You may fall but you can pick yourself back and find something else. All you need is the right positive environment to succeed.
the person on my team is now earning £70k a year and not even 23...
that person has become the most skilled developer on the team with un unparalleled attention to detail. Being at work in 15 months they have gone from a shy recluse to getting involved socially just as much as anyone else in their age bracket.
To watch the change has even heart warming and it’s opened me up to perhaps previous prejudices I may have had. It’s sad that people don’t give others chances Mx
Don’t let anyone tell you, you can’t do something. You may fall but you can pick yourself back and find something else. All you need is the right positive environment to succeed.
the person on my team is now earning £70k a year and not even 23...
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Caporegime
OP, I'm going to assume you're genuine but this is all kinds of nope. Concentrate on fixing this issue yourself rather than relying on a LDR with a person who probably doesn't exist, or at least not in the way you think he/she does.
The fact is that your parents are being overprotective, and in doing so are failing in their primary job ie to raise you to be a capable and independent adult who will contribute and thrive when they are gone. Going by your posting you seem to be high functioning, so there's no reason why you can't make a life for yourself. You're going to have to talk to your parents and get their support for you to start making progress towards a job (including any higher education required) and a place of your own.
You're going to have to do it when your parents are gone, so better to do it now when they are around to fall back on an help you when you need it until you can stand on your own feet, when they can be proud of you and your accomplishments, when they can be happy that you will be okay without them.
Man of Honour
I think some posters have missed post #40
Elucidate please..?
Divorce is actually illegal in the Philippines (there and the Vatican). It's a very Catholic country.
Caporegime
The OP is in an LDR with a person he's never met. This person is apparently the solution to moving out of his parents' place. Some posters raise an eyebrow.
There, you're up to speed.
Soldato
He wants to get married and have kids with a married woman who can't get a divorce, to compound matters somewhat, the married woman whom he's never met happens to live on the other side of the world.
And you think we've taken issue with the legalities regarding divorce in the Philippines? Thankfully, his mum is paying more attention than you.
He wants to get married and have kids with a married woman who can't get a divorce, to compound matters somewhat, the married woman whom he's never met happens to live on the other side of the world.
And you think we've taken issue with the legalities regarding divorce in the Philippines? Thankfully, his mum is paying more attention than you.
I think his mum is just like that. The bigger issue is why OP feels the only way out is to rely on this fairy tale of a LDR to come and rescue him, and take over from his mum, instead of making a life for himself now.
Caporegime
I thought autism was cool now? Or is that only if you’re supreme functioning and can count a spilled jar of pins in 0.3 seconds flat.
Wasn’t baby driver on the spectrum? What about Christian Bale in The Big Short? I would watch those movies.
Wasn’t baby driver on the spectrum? What about Christian Bale in The Big Short? I would watch those movies.
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