Phillip Schofield comes out as gay

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No, people don't like being told they are homophobic, racist or sexist for making a joke at the expense of someone from one of these groups. Why are they excluded from being the subject of jokes?

My partner didn't realise that Narwhals were an actual animal until about 6 months ago. Shes in her 30s. Maybe we should all have been more thoughtful and told her how proud we were of her strength to admit this instead of taking the ****. Not everything that isn't over the top praise and support for a minority group is an "ism" or a negative thing. The gay community has jokes about straight men and women. Thats fine. Its a joke and they are allowed to do that.

Our friend who is gay hates a lot of aspects of the gay community and culture. Does that make him self hating and homophobic? Is he allowed to joke about them?

Its just far too easy for people to just express righteous anger when anyone does something related to these protected groups and if you try to explain that there was no nastiness to it you are just told that you are trying to justify it or that you are part of the problem. Microagressions innit.
The power is in the hands of the minority. It's just the hot topic this day in age. Soon it will pass and it will be some other group.
 
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People don't like having errors of judgement or outdated views pointed out to them, which is why they attempt to normalise and ridicule.
You're making generalisations too.

Some gay people might find the Gordon the gopher jokes acceptable (maybe even funny); some might be mortified and filled with righteous fury.

If you make a blonde joke to a blonde, some might giggle and act up the stereotype (knowing that it is just a stereotype); some might be horrified and report you to HR.

A lot of us reject the "you're a terrible x-phobic" narrative as nothing but a means to gain power/privilege/control. People need to stop assuming everyone is x-phobic and actually get better at telling real prejudice and hate from people have a laugh at Gordon the gopher, or making a harmless blonde joke.

(Please don't respond by saying that blonde jokes are hair-o-phobic)
 
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You're making generalisations too.

Some gay people might find the Gordon the gopher jokes acceptable (maybe even funny); some might be mortified and filled with righteous fury.

I agree 100%. It's down to the recipient to decide whether the joke offended them, that's all I'm saying. I also don't think analogies are helpful in this particular instance, it just deflects from the actual topic.

I can't add much more than that; I'm not looking to get the last word, people can agree or disagree.
 
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I agree 100%. It's down to the recipient to decide whether the joke offended them, that's all I'm saying. I also don't think analogies are helpful in this particular instance, it just deflects from the actual topic.

I can't add much more than that; I'm not looking to get the last word, people can agree or disagree.
That leaves us with a problem.

Those Gordon jokes were therefore homophobic in the eyes of people who were offended; not homophobic in the eyes of people who weren't offended.

In other words, accusations of homophobia in this case are *entirely* subjective.
 
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That leaves us with a problem.

Those Gordon jokes were therefore homophobic in the eyes of people who were offended; not homophobic in the eyes of people who weren't offended.

In other words, accusations of homophobia in this case are *entirely* subjective.

Yes, subjective. Gay people can decide for themselves whether or not it offended them.
 
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Yes, subjective. Gay people can decide for themselves whether or not it offended them.

Maybe it's time we started saying people who are gay. Being gay, ethnic, disabled shouldn't define who someone is. I can understand someone being offended if they think like that.

The problem with people deciding for themselves if they should be offended is nobody will talk to that group, because its too awkward. Then soon after we'll see real discrimination.

A persons ego isn't above the rest of society. If a person wants to be integrated then they have to make an effort too. If someone calls you a name there is nothing stopping you calling them a name back. Nobody is immune from insults, and everyone feels them to some degree.

Sometimes it makes it easier to embrace a stereotype. I have a friend who uses a wheelchair and people call him "wheels". I'm sure some people would call that anti-disabled.

I'm not having a go at you. I know a lot of people aren't used to answering back, and they can't defend themselves. A lot of people arent taught how to defend themselves.

People need to take confidence classes and be happy in who they are. Then this stuff wouldn't matter to them.

I believe Schofield as said he appreciated it when Eamonn Holmes made a gay joke during his announcement. The newspapers were white knighting attacking Holmes.
 
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I personally have no issues with Phillip Schofield (or anyone for that matter) being gay. Him coming out as well must have taken a lot of courage, but it is his wife and kids I feel for, mainly his wife. I wonder how she feels in all of this and how hard it must be if asked, not to say "Shocked and hurt" because in this day and age, then she may be made into the villain.

My real question to Mr Schofield is "Why now?"
 
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I personally have no issues with Phillip Schofield (or anyone for that matter) being gay. Him coming out as well must have taken a lot of courage, but it is his wife and kids I feel for, mainly his wife. I wonder how she feels in all of this and how hard it must be if asked, not to say "Shocked and hurt" because in this day and age, then she may be made into the villain.

My real question to Mr Schofield is "Why now?"


Definitely more going on than meets the eye. As somebody said on Reddit, it's like he's the hero for being unfaithful to his wife and some say she's almost the villian.

Apparently Schofield is a real piece of work in real also.

All looks like more propaganda to cover up crimes.
 
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I wonder how she feels in all of this and how hard it must be if asked, not to say "Shocked and hurt" because in this day and age, then she may be made into the villain.

Yeah if he'd been sleeping around or taking an interest in young women then he'd be getting plenty of flack for cheating on his wife etc...

It's not confirmed whether he's cheated but assuming he has then somehow sleeping with or taking an interest in young men is more acceptable?

I mean in both cases the motivation is perhaps (at least partly) a lack of interest/attraction towards the spouse, in the first case perhaps due to age/lack of sex life etc.. in the second well just straight up wrong sex!

If anything the old straight bloke who did have a happy marriage and then it later fell apart was honest for some time, their partner can know they did at one point have a happy genuine relationship, in this case Phil has essentially lied to someone for decades and they're not getting that time back... he's faked it, all those happy memories, that wedding etc.. she was at best just a good friend he was using/taking advantage of.

My real question to Mr Schofield is "Why now?"

I wonder if the allegations that he was a bully, falling out with one of his co-stars and recent awkwardness a the national television awards were a factor - she wouldn't even look him in the face etc..

https://www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/tv/phillip-schofield-ruth-langsford-ntas-17650818

He's gone from allegations of being a bully to "OMG how brave, he came out and did some emotional stuff on TV"
 
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Couldn't really care less if someone prefers sausage over taco, what I do care about though is when someone tries to use their "status" as a means to gain power over someone else which is completely unjustified in most cases, and that seems to be the case these days. Look at Labour currently jumping on the trans bandwagon, calling womens rights groups transphobic.

This **** has got to stop.
 
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Couldn't really care less if someone prefers sausage over taco, what I do care about though is when someone tries to use their "status" as a means to gain power over someone else which is completely unjustified in most cases, and that seems to be the case these days. Look at Labour currently jumping on the trans bandwagon, calling womens rights groups transphobic.

This **** has got to stop.
Labour being fully into the crazy end of the SJW spectrum is one of my bigger reservations about them.

Since at least half of the SJW "issues" are nonsense/power struggles/identity politics. Stuff that should mostly be laughed at by serious politicians, but Labour seem to be happy to jump in with both feet.
 
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Ah, so by telling you that you've hurt their feelings then they actually hurt your feelings.

Expertly explained; you win, I concede etc etc.

You are, unsurprisingly, making that up. It has no connection to my post that you are "replying" to.

When someone is seeking to do you harm and blaming you for them doing you harm, it's bullying. Victim-blaming is something some bullies do. My example was realistic.

Also realistic is the statement that what really matters is the perceived status of the group identities involved because "offended" is entirely political. You're pretending it's about people's feelings, that's it's personal. That is a silly pretence. It's a political weapon and it's entirely about fashionable irrational prejudices.

If I say you've offended me, the only thing that matters is what group identity I lay claim to. If I say you've offended me and I claim the group identity "male", I'll be villified. If I say you've offended me and I claim the group identity "white", I'll be villified. If I say you've offended me and I claim the group identity "gay", you'll be villified unless you claim a higher status group identity or the same group identity and more loyalty to the ideology of fashionable irrational prejudices. It's solely about the fashionable hierarchy of group identity and fashionable irrational prejudices.
 
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Labour being fully into the crazy end of the SJW spectrum is one of my bigger reservations about them. . . .
What's this now?
Have you studied the Labour Party's last manmifesto in much detail then?
Do you seriously believe that the average Labour voter is on the "crazy end of the SJW spectrum"?
You REALLY need to retune your set pal :rolleyes:

ps - WTF does this have to do with Philip Schofield?
 
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Have you studied the Labour Party's last manmifesto in much detail then?
Do you seriously believe that the average Labour voter is on the "crazy end of the SJW spectrum"?
You REALLY need to retune your set pal :rolleyes:

ps - WTF does this have to do with Philip Schofield?

^^^ someone is still super salty about magic grandpa getting BTFO in the election.

The connecting is that FoxEye was replying to a post about identity politics and commented on a. recent issue, in particular Labour and RLB's recent comments re: some women's movements being transphobic.

Note he referred to Labour not Labour voters... though I suspect that plenty of the people you might consider average Labour voters actually voted Tory recently.... On the other hand the woke brigade who would likely share the view re: women's groups/transphobia expressed by at least one current leadership candidate likely did vote Labour.
 
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When someone is seeking to do you harm and blaming you for them doing you harm, it's bullying. Victim-blaming is something some bullies do. My example was realistic.

I don't want to quote your entire post as it's very repetitive. What you are essentially saying, and trust me I'm not "making that up" I'm simply paraphrasing what most would consider quite the ramble... is that when gay people complain about others making lewd jokes about their sexuality then it's actually passive aggression on their behalf? You're saying that you have every right to mock these people, but if they express any complaint that they find that offensive then they're bullying you? If this is the case, then I disagree with that and I think I've made that very clear. If not, then feel free to clarify.

Please note, when you refer to people of "higher status group identity" then you're losing my interest pretty rapidly. I'm talking about real people who actually exist, not figments of someone's imagination.

If I say you've offended me, the only thing that matters is what group identity I lay claim to

No, the only thing that matters is what I actually did to provoke that reaction, because in real life face to face interaction it should be a rare verbal exchange to have with someone.
 
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feels that way

I’m finding hard to believe someone would get married, have kids, live most their life and the wake up one morning and be like, ‘oh, I’m quite partial to a bit of **** actually.’

plus as said, why doesn’t his wife seem bothered, it’s kinda a big thing for a marriage I would have thought

Do you think that's what happened? He woke up and thought, "oh, I'm quite partial to a bit of **** actually"

Honestly, I really wonder about people sometimes.
 
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As we are told that it's "normal" to be gay then I don't see what all the fuss is about, if he wanted to be a really "cool kid" he should have come out as Trans, that's the new "special".
 
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