A work dilemma

tisonlyme

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Hi Guys,

I'm hoping you can help me come to a decision about my work situation. Basically at the moment I'm in a job I generally enjoy and get on well with all my colleagues. It doesn't pay amazing money, but I get by, the one thing that bothers me more than anything is the 35 mile commute every morning and night. It doesn't seem like a lot, but at least once a week it can take me 3 hours to get home and I'm finding myself constantly exhausted. My boss has been great about it and tried to find any way possible to make it easier for me (which so far hasn't worked), so he's pretty much resigned to the fact that I might leave one day because of it.

My boyfriends dad works for a global company and is head of IT for Europe and the Middle East. For a while now, my boyfriend has mentioned that his dad could find a job for me and turns out a role is available doing exactly the same job as I do currently. It would be based just down the road from my house, so no commute, and I'd be earning a lot more money - great, right? On paper it sounds perfect, but there's one thing holding me back.....his dad. I just don't feel comfortable with the idea of working with my bfs father. I wouldn't report directly to him, in fact I'd probably not see him at all, but it just doesn't feel right.

So what do you think I should do? Would you ever work with your partners father?? It probably sounds like a no brainer, but I'm very confused!

Cheers fellas :)
 
It's just a job and he is just referring you.

I would see your point if this was a small company, but it is a big global IT company and you'll soon make you own way inside the company.

Go for the job.
 
Certainly seems like a no brainer to me if you aren't directly reporting to him. It would be entirely different if you were. Sounds as if he is trying to help you and I would be biting his hands off :)
 
Take the job with more money. If things go badly with your boyfriend and it becomes an issue at work then sue them. lots of money to be had here!

All joking aside, sounds like a good career move, i'd take the job.
 
Taking the job isn't an irrevocable committment to either the job or the relationship as far as I can see so I think my advice would be to go for it. If you don't like it then you can always try another job but without at least seeing what it is like you'll never really know, also it is worth remembering that while your boyfriends dad might be helping you to get a job by giving you a referral it will be your merit in the job that keeps you there and allows you to progress.
 
Have you considered the bitchy and unkind things that will always be thought and said behind your back - "xxx's boyfriend is the head man and got her the job"

Will this worry you. You will always be proving yourself.

Personally I think it might be a bad idea long term but good short term - do it for a few years then use it as a springboard to something same or better elsewhere.
 
EffBee said:
Have you considered the bitchy and unkind things that will always be thought and said behind your back - "xxx's boyfriend is the head man and got her the job"
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If she's capable it won't be an issue, to be honest. I've worked with plenty of people who've had mates at work 'get them' their job... it's only a referral no doubt she'd still be interviewed for it.
 
PardonTheWait said:
If she's capable it won't be an issue, to be honest. I've worked with plenty of people who've had mates at work 'get them' their job... it's only a referral no doubt she'd still be interviewed for it.
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Aye. To be fair, with the economy the way it is: it's very much who you know rather then what you know. If it gives her a step up and ticks all the boxes, she'd be silly not to at least try.
 
Go for it, if you weigh it up you'll probably realise that the odd bit of awkwardness here and there working for your father-in-law is insignificant compared to the extra money and reduced commute you'll benefit from every day.
 
Thanks for the input guys, I've told my boyfriend I'm definitely interested, just need to update my CV and find out what the process would be.

There was a niggling worry in my mind that people would be bitter that I'd got in just because I'm the girlfriend of the boss's son, but from what I've heard, loads of people there get in through mates and different contacts, so I'm hoping it won't be an issue.

I was also a little worried about the constant need to prove myself, or looking like an idiot if I make mistakes. But I know I can do the job, so again, it should be ok.

Exciting times for me! Let's hope I get in :D
 
I drove 45 miles (90 per day) for a 12.5k job and I was in the same boat, although every other day on the M6 seemed to be crash on the way home day and I wasn't excused if there was a crash on the way to work and I was late. I hated it, especially when you're spending almost 1/4 of your wage on running costs per month.

It's a no brainer to go for this more local job. At the end of the day, in a few months time you'll probably end up looking elsewhere for work and may end up in a bad situation of 'between jobs'. An oppertunity has arisen, and one that is quite attractive, take it :D

I worked for my ex-girlfriends dad delivering beds at the opposite end of the country, sleeping in his lorry all week. He drove and I gave directions and did most of the lifting but I made loads of mistakes and got us lost round Essex many times. So long as you show you recognise the mistake and attempt to better yourself from it, you can't lose.
 
I'd go for the new job.... I have a 30 mile commute each way to work and sometimes get caught in traffic. (Why does it always happen when I've got things planned?)...

Hope you get it!
 
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