Am Am I a bad person?... Won't lend brother money.

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Got a text from my wee brother (he's 20) asking me for a lend of money as work didn't pay him this week as he's leaving next week, he gave a weeks notice and thought he'd still be paid. He lives with his girlfriend in a rented apartment and is out every single weekend boozing it up without fail. This past week, he's been out almost every single night at parties. I know that he spends a fortune in the bookies (betting) each week also.

Well my brother texted asking me for a lend of £50 and he would pay me it back in Feb. I have money in the bank but texted him back and said no, that I couldn't lend him anything. He texted back saying that he doesn't have any money for food etc. this week so I replied telling him that I couldn't lend him it and that he needed to get his priorities straight.

I don't see the point in lending people like that money as he would drink it away. I kinda feel bad for not lending him it as he's my brother but I know I've done the right thing. I'm a hard worker who doesn't drink all of his money away.

Any views on this?
 
I agree he does need to get his priorities straight, but it's only £50 and he can't eat. So I would lend it him, and also give him an earful.
 
From your point of view, sounds like you're doing him a favour, that is, unless he can't eat without the money or something.
 
You are a bad person. Who isn't out every weekend boozing it up?

It is £50 for your brother and he will pay it back, I don't see the issue. You will just be forcing him to borrow money from people that aren't as friendly and close to him as his brother.
Unless the lending him money was a recurring thing then, it would be bad, but as he says, he hasn't been paid on time and it seems if he had then he would normally be self-sufficient. It is his money and he can do what he wants with it, he can't help it if he doesn't get paid on time.
 
It's only £50, maybe he genuinely needs it for food?

If you doubt him, take him food shopping...
 
Check that he actually needs food, then buy him some. If he really is ****ing his money away on excessive booze\betting then why doesn't his girlfriend care? If he's going into another job then it'll only be a short term issue.
 
He's your brother. FFS man! Help him if you don't want to just give him cash.

Say you'll take him shopping and put it on a credit card as you have no money yourself, but don't want to see him starve.

I've lent my sister 5 figures of money, even though she's terrible with money it was needed. Never turn your back on family.
 
Aman said:
Buy him £50 worth of food.
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this is the best idea, and to those saying "he's your brother" it's all circumstantial, my brother owes me a vast sum of money, he has completely the wrong priorities, and it's all down to him being a moron abouty his money, thus causing me to ruin my own lifestyle helping him out.

but I'd definitely be more inclined to buy him food etc, take him shopping and buy the cheapest value stuff you can :D
 
As above, dont give him £50 in cash. Give him it in something, like food, stops it going down on the wrong stuff.
 
Yep like others have suggested, buy him food instead of giving him cash. That way you know what the money has been spent on and can rest knowing that your money has been well spent. :)
 
mac1st3 said:
this is the best idea, and to those saying "he's your brother" it's all circumstantial, my brother owes me a vast sum of money, he has completely the wrong priorities, and it's all down to him being a moron abouty his money, thus causing me to ruin my own lifestyle helping him out.
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As above, I've done exactly the same. But it's what we do as nice people :D
 
G-MAN2004 said:
That's not the point. If he's only going to go and waste it and be left with nothing again, then why should he give it him?
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I think, you and others are forming a stereotypical view of the OPs brother just because he goes to the pub at the weekend, and enjoys betting on horses or whatever. Everyone has their vices and I can guarantee gamblers would say maintaining an up-to-date pc spec is a waste of money.

It sounds like either the ops brother mistankenly thought he would be paid this week, or the company has made a mistake and he should have been paid. Either way he has had 0 income this week, which he was expecting and is therefore in the dog-house. He is your brother and it is £50, why would you even think about saying no?
 
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