Am I being naive or stupid?

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:34

I have just recived a text saying he was angry last night not because of me but I was the icing on the cake, I asked her if our friendship was worth all this trouble and she said she didnt know yet. I told her I hope she sorts her problems out with her bf and then she can let us know where we stand, I think that is the best thing.

kitten_caboodle · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:35

Good luck matey x

shifty_uk · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:36

I think you should just leave them alone.

alexakasloth · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:36

kitten_caboodle said:
it's just human nature unfortunately.

True, I have gotten quite, lets say suspicious of people hitting on my GF, and rightly so.

Raymond Lin · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:36

cymatty said:
I have just recived a text saying he was angry last night not because of me but I was the icing on the cake, I asked her if our friendship was worth all this trouble and she said she didnt know yet. I told her I hope she sorts her problems out with her bf and then she can let us know where we stand, I think that is the best thing.

I think she likes you a little...

crystaline · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:39

$loth said:
True, I have gotten quite, lets say suspicious of people hitting on my GF, and rightly so.

Would you say that if people had hit on your gf and you weren't suspicious or possessive in the slightest, that would be a reflection on a lack of caring from a male perspective?
It's not a personal question, I'm just curious to a general opinion on this.

Rosbif · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:39

This is a complete non-issue IMO

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:40

kitten_caboodle said:
Good luck matey x

Cheers

I think you should just leave them alone.

I am doing, I told her she needs to sort everything out with her bf and then to make a decision about us and to let me know.

Raymond Lin said:
I think she likes you a little...

Hmm dont know, she keeps telling me how happy she is with her bf and I believe her.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:41

Rosbif said:
This is a complete non-issue IMO

What you mean you agree with me and cant understand why he is taking this so badly?

alexakasloth · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:42

crystaline said:
Would you say that if people had hit on your gf and you weren't suspicious or possessive in the slightest, that would be a reflection on a lack of caring from a male perspective?
It's not a personal question, I'm just curious to a general opinion on this.

I wouldn't say a lack of caring I didn't even notice it at first myself (and i'm very caring of my girlfriend). Though it was at a party and I tend not to leech onto my gf at party's, we both understand that we don't have to be together all the time and that we can have fun having a laugh with others.

The Running Man · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:43

cymatty said:
What you mean you agree with me and cant understand why he is taking this so badly?

swap shoes dude, your GF suddenly starts hanging round with new guy, she starts drinkin/going out, lies about what she has been doing with him.. it would all seem very strange would it not? id be asking questions anyway!

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:44

Nickg said:
swap shoes dude, your GF suddenly starts hanging round with new guy, she starts drinkin/going out, lies about what she has been doing with him.. it would all seem very strange would it not? id be asking questions anyway!

I would ask her yes, however I would not go stalking her and checking up on her and generally being a bit of an ass.

The Mad Rapper · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:47

iCraig said:
Most likely just a possessive boyfriend.

I don't think he is being possessive, his behaviour is completely normal. He is feeling insecure because the actions of his partner and the OP are making him feel that way.

I am not suggesting the OP is doing anything wrong, he certainly doesn't appear to have any malicious intent, but I do agree with you that there is a trust issue here. Perhaps you're right about the GF though...

The Mad Rapper · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:48

cymatty said:
I would ask her yes, however I would not go stalking her and checking up on her and generally being a bit of an ass.

Then you are a fool.

That's not the way to live your life with your head buried in the sand.

Trust works both ways.

Rosbif · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:49

cymatty said:
What you mean you agree with me and cant understand why he is taking this so badly?

Yeah I agree with you on that.. BUT.. I'd never put a friendship on hold so they can 'sort it out', which really doesnt mean anything anyway as its always going to be her word against what he suspects, rightly or wrongly.

I guess my point is, sod what the boyfriend thinks or how he feels, its his problem that he has incorrect suspicions. Its a non-issue for you IMO.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:50

The Mad Rapper said:
Then you are a fool.

That's not the way to live your life with your head buried in the sand.

Trust works both ways.

I dont understand what you are saying sorry.

I said I would ask her about the guy and stuff but I would not stalk her or constantly check up on her. Are you saying this is having my head buried in the sand?

Neoni · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:52

your treading on his terroritry and he doesnt like it back off. seriously mate its gonna get harder if it carrys on. it both ways.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 15:53

Neon said:
your treading on his terroritry and he doesnt like it back off. seriously mate its gonna get harder if it carrys on. it both ways.

I have backed off.

Vixen · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:14

cymatty said:
I dont understand what you are saying sorry.

I said I would ask her about the guy and stuff but I would not stalk her or constantly check up on her. Are you saying this is having my head buried in the sand?

So you could trust someone who lies to you? More fool you really.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:18

Vixen said:
So you could trust someone who lies to you? More fool you really.

Depends what the lie is, like I said I would be worried if that happened to me but he does not know that she is lying to him but he is still being funny imo.