Am i being tight ( gf related thread )?

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Always go dutch, women can earn the same as men and nowdays they drink as much as men! They wanted equality now they have it! Those bitches can't have it both ways.
 
I usually take turns paying for things with my girlfriend.

It works out fairly even in the longrun, saves trying to figure out who owes who what.

The only time i'd do the 50/50 thing would be for holidays.
 
look at it another way, would I be right in assuming she has a home, child ( babysitter remark) and pays gas, leccy water etc, while you are dossing cheap/free at your parents?
So she is providing, and paying for al the home comforts that you are enjoying when you go over and visit, yet you are winging about taking her out?
mrs herbs
 
The missus and myself normally try and share the cost of most things, our earnings are very similar meaning neither of us feel obliged to pay for anything!!
 
Call me traditional but I always thought it was the true gentleman thing to do to pay her meals?

It's like a guy from round our way who back 30 years ago used to ask his gf for petrol money when he went to see her!
 
it's agreed 50/50 split, however on the first couple of dates it's a gentleman to offer to pay. so who suggested the chinese was it a joint agreement or did she suggest it? if she suggested it then you ask her politely if she would be happy paying a little bit. if she's said "i can't afford to have no cash" then you know that's kind of expecting you to pay, from what you were saying she had no cash! so already she knows that you are paying. Next time you go out for the date ask her subtley that isn't it her turn to treat you. for example.

Her = Fancy going out this week
you = yeah sure, how bout we go half's as i know you afford to pay it all. that way you acknowledge she can't afford to pay the whole bill, but it's being polite.

saying that once your in a relationship half'es goes out the window, cause i understand that she cant always afford it. and in return i get her love and affection ;), try not to keep tabs on what she's paying though as it will cause arguements in the future.
 
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Are you sure you like the girl? I can imagine if its only 3 dates in and she irritates you by not paying half maybe there is a little doubt as to whether you like her all that much.

Im quite old fashioned in the sense that first few dates its nice for the man to pay (especially when he is the one who asked me to join him) I do always always offer to buy drinks though. After the first/second date I always offer to pay my half, but ive never been taken up on that offer.

I think if the answer is yes, you like her. Give it a chance and see if she offers after pay day, but also take into consideration shes a lone parent, the cold is setting in, the electric is on longer due to dark nights and Xmas is creeping up slowly and children are expensive! :D I hope everything works out the way you want it to.
 
If it's me asking a girl out, I certainly wouldn't expect her to pay for her evening. Once you start seeing each other more regularly its nice for her to pick things up every so often. I don't worry about who has paid what too much unless she is blatantly taking the ****.
 
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