Anyone else just bimble along through life?

It's easy to feel you're stuck in an endless loop of doing nothing meaningful or wasting time with no plans etc.

The key is to add small rounds of positivity around your life. Nobody can change over night, and these things take ongoing effort. People have suggested learning to play an instrument or taking up some other creative hobby. These things won't come naturally if you just think "oh I'll learn to play acoustic guitar now" suddenly. You have to have the positive mindset first to get up and start with a small amount here and there. Before all that you need inspiration/motivation. That only comes from having the mindset to do it. Browse youtube and other social media and find the subjects that interest you and start building a playlist of that stuff. In time these will be the motivators and you'll slowly start seeing inspiration everywhere.

Remember that nothing worthwhile is ever easy. And if you're always looking for an excuse to tell yourself that it's not worth doing, that's all you're going to find when you look online or offline. Instead of saying "I can't do that", it should instead be "how can I do that", you get the idea.
 
mrk said:
It's easy to feel you're stuck in an endless loop of doing nothing meaningful or wasting time with no plans etc.

The key is to add small rounds of positivity around your life. Nobody can change over night, and these things take ongoing effort. People have suggested learning to play an instrument or taking up some other creative hobby. These things won't come naturally if you just think "oh I'll learn to play acoustic guitar now" suddenly. You have to have the positive mindset first to get up and start with a small amount here and there. Before all that you need inspiration/motivation. That only comes from having the mindset to do it. Browse youtube and other social media and find the subjects that interest you and start building a playlist of that stuff. In time these will be the motivators and you'll slowly start seeing inspiration everywhere.

Remember that nothing worthwhile is ever easy. And if you're always looking for an excuse to tell yourself that it's not worth doing, that's all you're going to find when you look online or offline. Instead of saying "I can't do that", it should instead be "how can I do that", you get the idea.
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I used to play guitar, sold most of the gear but still have an acoustic laying around, no interest in playing any more as it just felt like a chore and not fun.

I've tried loads of hobbies but I just get disinterested after a brief period of enthusiasm. Nothing has stuck.
 
I find exercise helps a lot and most cases I drag myself out of bed to do it but I'm always glad I did especially on weekends.
 
Telecaster said:
I used to play guitar, sold most of the gear but still have an acoustic laying around, no interest in playing any more as it just felt like a chore and not fun.

I've tried loads of hobbies but I just get disinterested after a brief period of enthusiasm. Nothing has stuck.
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Sounds like you are after something seriously challenging and fun at the same time. I've said it before, but I'll say it again, look up Calisthenics/Street Workouts. You will find most of the moves incredibly hard or impossible if you've never done any proper bodyweight workouts before, but you will very quickly build up strength and want to do more and more advanced moves. Progressions are endless so you will never get bored an you'll be doing body and mind a massive favour and increasing overall wellbeing at the same time. You need zero equipment to this as well so really there is no excuse!

You can do it 5 days a week and give yourself the weekend to kick back and relax. 30 minutes a day to an hour max.
 
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mrk said:
Sounds like you are after something seriously challenging and fun at the same time. I've said it before, but I'll say it again, look up Calisthenics/Street Workouts. You will find most of the moves incredibly hard or impossible if you've never done any proper bodyweight workouts before, but you will very quickly build up strength and want to do more and more advanced moves. Progressions are endless so you will never get bored an you'll be doing body and mind a massive favour and increasing overall wellbeing at the same time. You need zero equipment to this as well so really there is no excuse!

You can do it 5 days a week and give yourself the weekend to kick back and relax. 30 minutes a day to an hour max.
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Yeah ok, doesn't really interest me but each to their own.
 
So you've asked what people do, because you're stuck for ideas.

None of the ideas posed interest you and "each to their own".

This is the issue at hand, you're forcing yourself into a negative decline and all you're seeing is the lack of interest because that's all you want to see.

I'm afraid to say it but this is largely a pointless thread then :/
 
mrk said:
So you've asked what people do, because you're stuck for ideas.

None of the ideas posed interest you and "each to their own".

This is the issue at hand, you're forcing yourself into a negative decline and all you're seeing is the lack of interest because that's all you want to see.

I'm afraid to say it but this is largely a pointless thread then :/
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mrk hitting those home truths.

OP, lots to reflect on in the above 127 comments :)
 
Telecaster said:
I don't have a passport, but I get your point.

I like the idea of these things in theory but then when start to think about the hassle involved I just can't be arsed.
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Have you got depression - perhaps go and see your GP or better still, just take small steps at a time to get out of the house, start to do more exercise etc... at the moment if you're both depressed and just moping about blundering your way through life then you should probably make an attempt to break the cycle even if it involves a little bit of effort.
 
mrk said:
So you've asked what people do, because you're stuck for ideas.

None of the ideas posed interest you and "each to their own".

This is the issue at hand, you're forcing yourself into a negative decline and all you're seeing is the lack of interest because that's all you want to see.

I'm afraid to say it but this is largely a pointless thread then :/
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Why, just because I don't want to swing from a pole after a day's grafting?

I've already said I've tried dozens of hobbies and none of them stick, including exercise based ones, how is calisthenics going to be any different?

Or is it just because I brushed off your own personal suggestion?

I do enough exercise at work to make doing it out of work a complete turn off.
 
Andybtsn said:
I'm not sure I could fully enjoy going abroad on my own. If I didn't have a partner I'd probably try and holiday with a friend. I can't imagine going to the beach, cafes, restaurants, touristy spots and having fun on my own. Each to their own though.
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I don't know if he had posted his relationship status but yeah being forever alone is likely one of the many things that has made him depressed.

He could always try and find that person whilst abroad. Love you long time in Thailand if he's desperate. I don't like going out on my own either but I would do it if I needed to. I've traveled several hundreds of miles and stayed overnight for jobs, job interviews even, etc. I've also went abroad where I've known none of the other males and just mingled when the women went off to do their thing and got stuck in and had a great time and made life long friends.

It would only be scary or daunting to someone who is socially inept. Which may be a factor here. So he needs to take baby steps then until he can go out and enjoy his life.
 
Again with the negative attitude... You've been like that with almost every suggestion so far not just mine. I'm just telling you like it is because I don't care for beating around the bush!

It doesn't affect me if you choose my suggestion or not. I spent nearly 10 years in the same position (actually far worse) as you before deciding to step out of all comfort zones and do something about it.
 
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I don't know if he had posted his relationship status but yeah being forever alone is likely one of the many things that has made him depressed.

He could always try and find that person whilst abroad. Love you long time in Thailand if he's desperate. I don't like going out on my own either but I would do it if I needed to. I've traveled several hundreds of miles and stayed overnight for jobs, job interviews even, etc. I've also went abroad where I've known none of the other males and just mingled when the women went off to do their thing and got stuck in and had a great time and made life long friends.

It would only be scary or daunting to someone who is socially inept. Which may be a factor here. So he needs to take baby steps then until he can go out and enjoy his life.
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I have no problem doing things by myself, I've done it all my life. If I wanted to go on holiday by myself I'd have absolutely no problem doing so.
 
Have you ever had a full blood workup done including test levels? That needs to be specially requested and approved by the gp first they won't just do one if you ask. They will want to know why and you need to pass various other signs first without signs of abuse of illegal substances.

Sounds like your test levels might be low. As you don't seem to have any mojo.
 
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