Doubt I'd notice tbh, apart from being glad of the peace and quiet!
Bad error of judgement or overreaction?
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Doubt I'd notice tbh, apart from being glad of the peace and quiet!
Try to take this angle.So went out for a few beers last night with a friend and his mates.
Got on really well with his mates so when he went home at 11 we went on to a few clubs.
Now the mrs knew I was out as I phoned her about 8 ish but cue 3am, I'm still out being shouted at down the phone for not contacting her. Got home at 6am this morning after a great night with new mates and the mrs now hates my guts.
Do women lack the ability to use a phone when worried about their partner??Or am I just an ass for having fun?!? I'm guessing that will be the OcUK answer!!!
"From now on, if I'm going out - expect me back the following day".
Then you can come back early if you want, or stay out if you want - you are not going to get nagged at for coming home early.
This I'd guess.
/hangs head in shame....
Bet I would have got verbal for waking her up past 10pm anyway
I have been known to phone my wife at 4am to come pick me up and drop off my mates....one of who lives about 10 miles away.....
She's never moaned about it......
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Seems a bit of an overreaction if you had chatted to her at 8... though I'd have probably dropped a text to let her know you were staying out as she may have worried about you?
Still seems a little bit weird getting that bad a reaction though.
Still seems a little bit weird getting that bad a reaction though.
If you live with her and she was expecting you home I can kind of see her point.
It comes under the classification of communicating.
The call at 3am could be the key here, how did that one go?
This to me just shows she cares, as previously mentioned it's a fair while to go by with no contact from 8pm until 3am if she was expecting you back, she was worried about you.
It comes under the classification of communicating.
The call at 3am could be the key here, how did that one go?
This to me just shows she cares, as previously mentioned it's a fair while to go by with no contact from 8pm until 3am if she was expecting you back, she was worried about you.
Lucky ***
Think OP should have texted, one text would have stopped it, call may have risked the wrath either by waking her up or by the fact she would now be jealous but a text would have nipped it all in the bud.
Sounds like you may need to buy a dinner for this one as well, take her out, show her you ahve a good time out with her as well
- FYI NOT Burger King, somewhere reasonably nice The 3am call -
Her - where the **** are you
Me - In a club, are you ok?
Her - <loads of noise about not sleeping, being worried, thinking I was dead in a gutter etc>!
Me - Sorry etc
She hangs up
Tell her to get a grip.
She sounds insecure, although she might genuinly need some help with this moving forward. Otherwise your relationship is doomed.
The 3am call -
Her - where the **** are you
Me - In a club, are you ok?
Her - <loads of noise about not sleeping, being worried, thinking I was dead in a gutter etc>!
Me - Sorry etc
She hangs up
It's a fair enough reaction imo, if she wasn't expecting you to go out later, and you didn't let her know, why wouldn't she worry?
It's not her being jealous or anything, sometimes people actually care about their partners. All you had to do was let her know at the point you all decided to go to the club that you were doing so.
The 3am call -
Her - where the **** are you
Me - In a club, are you ok?
Her - <loads of noise about not sleeping, being worried, thinking I was dead in a gutter etc>!
Me - Sorry etc
She hangs up
That's a little bad of her to just hang up, but I've been there and done that with my ex, she was in floods of tears at me down the phone for going out with my mates, I hung up on her, tough *******.
We didn't stay together much longer.
Or if she was so scared he was dying in a gutter she could have phoned him earlier, like the time she came up with in her head that she expected him back at?
He is the one altering the plans, therefore he should be updating her.
I'm starting to understand why my gf thinks I am the most amazing bf in the world now.
