Bad error of judgement or overreaction?
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Screw her, she would probably have been in a mood either way. Once she has decided that she is not happy, you are screwed. The only way that you will get out of this without serious consequence is to stand your ground.
Thats how pretty much all my nights out happen. You go to the pub for a few drinks, have a good time, move onto some clubs as a result and before you know it, the morning is greeting you with some sunshine.
If you had ignored all her call and texts then I could see her point but she didn't call so I don't think you have done too badly.
The fact that every woman uses the exact same "I thought you were dead in a gutter somewhere" leads me to disregard it as a genuine concern. Why would you think that is the logical outcome when you haven't heard from someone in 8 hours.
This is the sort of things that gives a very clear indication of the dynamic of peoples relationships.
Thats how pretty much all my nights out happen. You go to the pub for a few drinks, have a good time, move onto some clubs as a result and before you know it, the morning is greeting you with some sunshine.
If you had ignored all her call and texts then I could see her point but she didn't call so I don't think you have done too badly.
The fact that every woman uses the exact same "I thought you were dead in a gutter somewhere" leads me to disregard it as a genuine concern. Why would you think that is the logical outcome when you haven't heard from someone in 8 hours.
This is the sort of things that gives a very clear indication of the dynamic of peoples relationships.
To be fair, the irrationality she seems to be projected can actually be rationalised.
At the start, both of you were under the impression you would be coming home after the pub.
As you were out, this plan changed.
Of the 2 of you, only you know that the plan has changed, so logically it should be you updating her.
Why should she have to wait for your agreement to not be met, and then contact you to find out why?
Would you accept it if your work wasn't able to pay you on the time you were expecting, and they didn't contact you to let you know?
At the start, both of you were under the impression you would be coming home after the pub.
As you were out, this plan changed.
Of the 2 of you, only you know that the plan has changed, so logically it should be you updating her.
Why should she have to wait for your agreement to not be met, and then contact you to find out why?
Would you accept it if your work wasn't able to pay you on the time you were expecting, and they didn't contact you to let you know?
Can I borrow your wife?!!?
haha, you are not the first one to ask that.....
Can't say I've ever had the issue myself, mainly because when I do go out the wife gets a text saying "in such and such", or "just off too...".
It lets her know I am still alive, and more importantly, where to start looking IF i don't come home
I am sure, had the roles been reversed that mainly of the people here saying she's paranoid etc would have been a little worried about their wife/girlfriend doing this.
It's not a jealousy reaction, paranoia etc, it's just caring for someone that's important.
It lets her know I am still alive, and more importantly, where to start looking IF i don't come home
I am sure, had the roles been reversed that mainly of the people here saying she's paranoid etc would have been a little worried about their wife/girlfriend doing this.
It's not a jealousy reaction, paranoia etc, it's just caring for someone that's important.
Good luck finding a loving relationship with that attitude lol
I think it is more that if she is picking me up then that is infinitely better than picking me up from the police station the next day.....
Provided you have that agreement, then fine, guessing the OP didn't have such an agreement.
Again, she obviously had a time in her head at which she expected him home by. If he wasn't home by that time she should have called him. She didn't and therefore it's her fault she got herself so worried and ****ed off.
Thing is in situations like this, it takes you about 15 seconds to send a text, or 2 minutes to make a phonecall... time taken out of your night to put your wife's mind at ease, or at least inform her what you're doing. Instead of taking those 2 minutes, you probably had her fretting and having stupid thoughts go through her head all night, which is definitely a lot worse than you having to step outside the club for 2 minutes to say "hello".
This is the part I have a problem with. Why should there be an "agreement" for a grown man to manage his own time? If he has agreed to be back home for some prior engagement or responsibility that he needs to carry out then of course he should return or at least call, but agreeing to be back home at a certain time just for the sake of it?
And what if she was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt if he was running a little bit late and didn't want to seem like a jealous bunny-boiler?
The initial responsibility lies with him, anything happening as a result of his failing is down to him.
Well if someone is assumed to only be going out to pubs, which have a somewhat specific closing time, you would expect them home in a timely fashion from then.
Why can some of you not see that all it takes is a non-effort to avoid stuff like this? Relationships are about compromise, any bf who really gave a damn about his partner would have contacted her instinctively.
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O to the M to the G, sounds like most of you are single, or if not, you're just trying to big yourselves up with the comments about her overreacting!
Which would bother you more, your gf caring about you... or your gf not giving a darn about you?
Which would bother you more, your gf caring about you... or your gf not giving a darn about you?
I'm in one?!
I still think women are highly volatile irrational beings on the whole though.