The problem is the people who aren't listening to her are also not acknowledging the reality of what is happening. Those who advocate no deal are still insisting that, having told the eu to sod off over their deal, that the EU will help mitigate no deal (the so called managed no deal). This isn't going to happen. The eu will protect itself, but will not do anything to protect us at all. There are countries in the eu that would happily damage their economy etc to damage ours. Likewise, those who claim they could negotiate a better deal, while still insisting on special treatment and cherry picking, are failing to acknowledge the reality that it won't happen. The eu negotiates with countries, not governments, and a different deal is not likely while there are any redlines that breach eu rules. The eu has also shown absolutely no desire to negotiate the type of custom union labour advocate, not least because it would give the uk a massive influence in eu external trade policy, which is not going to happen Additionally, Norway don't want us in the EEA, as we would dominate it both economically and population wise, and the eu has no desire to create another Switzerland situation. May, for all her faults, is one of the few who are actually working with reality on this issue. The fact that the reality sucks isn't May's fault. Her only fault is that now the reality is clear, she isn't looking to call a second referendum based solely on reality.