Caporegime
My head hurts 

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Just on this sli and surround business there"s not a lot to go on , through the other forums and youtube . Its all peoples opinions , just not any who actually say " I have and i am" or " I tried" ect
.Cheers , so what yr concluding , is the only market for a higher than 2GB card would be with a 3 way setup at current top range 680 or prob 7970 cards.
Because , TBH im coming around to your conclusions , But another View is could this be somehow software/driver related which will mature (eventually)
Something else must be going on , cause it does not make full sense that one GPU can handle a standard 2GB of card ram , yet two GPU"S together cant manage the ram fully of one card of 2GB , let alone more , putting aside the full 4 GB argument .
What this says in a way is your get better graphics with one card , but better FPS with two , if that makes sense .
Or another way to interperete , For example ,One card will give you say 30FPS , two cards will give you 58FPS , but even if you were to drop to 30FPS , you couldnt still turn up the candy .
Therefore for many if you get playable framerates , there is no benefit at all going sli or crossfire .
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. What frame rates you get is dependent on your hardware/drivers.
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