You don't get many of these from me, this will be the first in 4 months or so, but anyway yeah I have a slight problem on my hands, and i guess really not 100% sure what I should do.
Bit of back ground really, but recently I've been seeing a girl, haven't known her for very long to be honest, so I wouldn't say I know her all that well, but anyway. First few times we went out everything was good, we had a really good laugh, we really got on and she really liked my sense of humour, endless text messages and phone calls.
Basically I always knew that she still has feelings for her ex fella, they split up 2 years ago because she caught him doing the dirty on her with another girl. You would think now that after 2 years she'd be over it, but it seems she isn't.
And this is where my problem lies I guess. Spoke to her a few days ago, and she said she'd been andhad a drink with her ex who started on with the "I can't live without you" To which she didn't swallow, then it wasn't long after that but her ex's g/f phoned her up and started threatening her, I don't have all the details.
I'm meant to be meeting up with her this weekend, and I know that a lot of the time she is going to be talking about her ex, now half the time I feel like telling her that her needle is stuck in the groove, but I also feel that in saying that I'm coming across as insensitive. I mean dwelling on what was and didn't happen will never help anyone to move on.
She says she can never trust men again, what makes me laugh about that is she has plenty of male friends, and I mean plenty. One of them only lives down the road from me. I've met him, he's a nice enough guy, but by heck is he very quiet. If you don't trust men then erm why have lots of male friends ?
A few weeks back I went out for the evening, she said some of her frinds would be coming along, I thought great there might be a few single girls there, but nope, mostly he rmale friends, and even one of her male friends mother !!!
Then of course she's decided she wants to do some modelling to earn some extra cash, and she's asked me to help her with that as in me taking a few photos to send to a few agencies, I'm not exactly a proffessional, but I've said I'd have a go now.
Anyway not really looking for any advice, just wanted to to have a bit of a vent, because I'm just a bit confused really and I can't really work out what she wants, I don't think she does either, and I'm pretty tempted to say next time she brings her ex up again that she really has to let go of the past if she wants to ever move on.
Any how, if a don wants this closed or deleted, then fair enough, feeling a bit better now I've vented this out my system.
I know what someone will say mind, nuke her from orbit ??
Bit of back ground really, but recently I've been seeing a girl, haven't known her for very long to be honest, so I wouldn't say I know her all that well, but anyway. First few times we went out everything was good, we had a really good laugh, we really got on and she really liked my sense of humour, endless text messages and phone calls.
Basically I always knew that she still has feelings for her ex fella, they split up 2 years ago because she caught him doing the dirty on her with another girl. You would think now that after 2 years she'd be over it, but it seems she isn't.
And this is where my problem lies I guess. Spoke to her a few days ago, and she said she'd been andhad a drink with her ex who started on with the "I can't live without you" To which she didn't swallow, then it wasn't long after that but her ex's g/f phoned her up and started threatening her, I don't have all the details.
I'm meant to be meeting up with her this weekend, and I know that a lot of the time she is going to be talking about her ex, now half the time I feel like telling her that her needle is stuck in the groove, but I also feel that in saying that I'm coming across as insensitive. I mean dwelling on what was and didn't happen will never help anyone to move on.
She says she can never trust men again, what makes me laugh about that is she has plenty of male friends, and I mean plenty. One of them only lives down the road from me. I've met him, he's a nice enough guy, but by heck is he very quiet. If you don't trust men then erm why have lots of male friends ?
A few weeks back I went out for the evening, she said some of her frinds would be coming along, I thought great there might be a few single girls there, but nope, mostly he rmale friends, and even one of her male friends mother !!!
Then of course she's decided she wants to do some modelling to earn some extra cash, and she's asked me to help her with that as in me taking a few photos to send to a few agencies, I'm not exactly a proffessional, but I've said I'd have a go now.
Anyway not really looking for any advice, just wanted to to have a bit of a vent, because I'm just a bit confused really and I can't really work out what she wants, I don't think she does either, and I'm pretty tempted to say next time she brings her ex up again that she really has to let go of the past if she wants to ever move on.
Any how, if a don wants this closed or deleted, then fair enough, feeling a bit better now I've vented this out my system.
I know what someone will say mind, nuke her from orbit ??
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