Dead end relationship

From the sound of things it sounds bad - talk to her about how you feel, but do it in a way so that the next step depends on her response to you. Be selfish - if she hasn't convinced you that it might work, then end it.
 
Anyone else in one? I feel like I'm just making do, I'm not really happy... I know I should break it off but I keep feeling sorry for her and can't.

I don't think I'd be any more/less happy being single.

I'm not the only one with this problem surely?

No, you're not. At all. My gf and I had been coasting for months. She told me she wanted to get married [well, what she actually said is that she wanted a husband] and that at the age of 29 she was getting increasingly worried that she wouldn't have kids in her 'prime'. The problem was that she wanted kids, a family etc and I.... didn't. We both couldn't come to an agreement about how to deal with it, and yesterday she told me she'd found someone else. I'm pretty much devastated and have no idea of how to cope. I know that I will, somehow, just now sure how at this stage.

Being single after a long amount of time WILL feel terrible to you initially. Especially when you cast your mind back to those amazing times the two of you used to have. But in the end, thinking about them doesn't help your current situation at all. Those times will always be there, and will always be yours, you can't be robbed of them. If you move on, consider how you'll deal with it, and make sure you have lots of people at hand to talk to. Last night one of my friends said she could 'feel' something was wrong and called me up for a drink and a talk. Without her my evening would have been very glum indeed.
 
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Talk to her and find out where she is, if there's any chance of carrying on, try it, but let her know what's going on so she doesn't think it comes out of the blue one day when you say "I'm not happy, goodbye"

Indeed, don't do this, having been on the receiving end, its not a nice thing to know that the last few months have been a complete lie >_<
 
I've talked to her before but I don't think she can let go, this isn't the first time the thoughts crossed my mind though, I think maybe half a dozen times so far.

Sounds like it's fizzled out. Unless it's an effort thing causing problems within the relationship then it's time to face the cold, hard facts.

A relationship has to work for both of you at the end of the day.
 
You:
"hi, I think this relationship is not really going anywhere. Perhaps it's just me but I can't keep hurting you by carrying on this facade"

Her:
"no, no, please don't leave me. I'll be a complete mess without you. We just need to inject some spice in to our relationship. I don't know how i'll cope without seeing your gorgeous face every day"

You:
"Ok ok, chill, I'm sure we can work this out"

Her:
"Really?? I'd really like that"

You:
"No, now get lost EGG FACE!"
 
Not me but a work friend is.

He is 26, missus is 35 and about 6 months pregnant. Is it his? not sure! Been with her for nearly 2 years.

She was a hooker up until about 3 months ago, could be anyones and she had a thing for asian customers. Although, IF the baby isn't his it may come out with a tan meaning at least he will know and it'll give him the kick in the backside he needs to move on!
 
Hi Pike, how long have you been together if you don't mind me asking?

Most relationships go through bad phases and sometimes it can be down to lack of communication, or when one person in the relationship gets bored or wants more.

My best advice to you would be to sit down and have a proper think what "you" really want. Once you have that stuck into your system, speak to her about it as it's unfair to string someone along or to not be honest about it. Maybe take some time apart as well and see if things feel any different.

I had the same situation about 6 months ago, I was with a girl for 3 years and although the first 2 years were great, the third year we both became trapped. As neither of us had the balls to do anything about it, we just went on playing the happy family type of couple, but it just made things worse in the long run. We eventually split but not on good terms, but all of this could have been avoided if we had just spoken about it.

So take some time, clear your head then just be honest and talk to her. Things will work out either way, they always do.

Good luck.
 
I had the same situation about 6 months ago, I was with a girl for 3 years and although the first 2 years were great, the third year we both became trapped. As neither of us had the balls to do anything about it, we just went on playing the happy family type of couple, but it just made things worse in the long run. We eventually split but not on good terms, but all of this could have been avoided if we had just spoken about it.

This seems to be the same situation as me. Overall a great first three years, but the fourth was just full of confusion, messy and pressured.
 
Not me but a work friend is.

He is 26, missus is 35 and about 6 months pregnant. Is it his? not sure! Been with her for nearly 2 years.

She was a hooker up until about 3 months ago, could be anyones and she had a thing for asian customers. Although, IF the baby isn't his it may come out with a tan meaning at least he will know and it'll give him the kick in the backside he needs to move on!

together for 2 years and she's been a hooker till 3 months ago?!

how did he cope knowing each night his gf was getting boned by others? men's seed was putting food on his table :p
 
together for 2 years and she's been a hooker till 3 months ago?!

how did he cope knowing each night his gf was getting boned by others? men's seed was putting food on his table :p

No idea mate, I certainly couldn't of done it.

used to tell people she didn't sleep with them, just did things like massages and peeing on them. Then admitted she had been.

As for the money, rich kiddie relying on the bank of mum and dad. Doesn't really care where it comes from.
 
No idea mate, I certainly couldn't of done it.

used to tell people she didn't sleep with them, just did things like massages and peeing on them. Then admitted she had been.

As for the money, rich kiddie relying on the bank of mum and dad. Doesn't really care where it comes from.

both need a solid kick up the jacksie and given a pass to the real world :/
 
As someone who has been on the other end of this kind of problem, sort it out quickly. Being told that your partner stopped loving you a while back but kept pretending so they didnt hurt your feelings actually just makes it worse when the end finally comes.

PK!
 
Is that part of standard massage procedure?

rofl, not from what i've been told, its a special 'extra'.

Thing is I now know far more than I would like to about it. he even phoned me one night to see if i'd phone the place she was working at to see if she was actually there.

So, in front of my wife-to-be I have to phone this industrial unit and ask "what girls are on tonight?" :D She found it highly amusing!

both need a solid kick up the jacksie and given a pass to the real world :/

I've been telling him to grow some nuts and move on for quite some time!!
 
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