Do You Believe That People Can Change?

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Do you believe that people can change? Or do you think that "leopards can't change their spots" as they say?

I've been thinking about this a lot lately as there are a couple of people (kind of) in my life that keep swearing that they've changed and then quickly prove they haven't! Yet me being me, I keep giving them chance after chance because I want to believe they have.

Maybe you think that if something big happens in their life it might change them, or maybe someone in their life can make a difference. Maybe you think people will always go back to their old ways? Do you think people can change on their own? :confused:

As I said, I want to believe but after all I've been seeing lately I don't think I actually believe :(

What do you think? Can people change and if they can, what makes people change?
 
of course they can.... but mate... this is where youre going wrong i reckon... dont LISTEN to people say... words are empty... judge them by their ACTIONS... if theyve changed its their ACTIONS that will be different...
 
People can change...if they want to! Sometimes it takes therapy, though, but if they are the type of person who thinks they don't need it, then this person is in denial and probably won't change...but it is their own fault.
 
Yeah definately. Most common example I can think of is the 'born again christian ' types.

Edit: To do it conciously and make it an objective to change rather than it being a result of doing somthing else is pretty hard.
 
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People change, it happens.

I changed a good few years back, but everyone but me noticed. As said really if they notice it then they are just putting on a front, but are the same person deep down.

If you change as a person, only others will notice as you are still you; if that makes sense!
 
The one person i wanted to change who said they had, hadn't. For me to really believe that he had I decided to make some situations and see how he reacted, he failed on all of them and was really exactly the same from before.

Although i do think some people can change but to know you have to look at there actions, if they arent real they cant keep up with the game for long:)
 
On another note, is it possible to consciously improve your personality? There are many attributes I have which I try to suppress (being overly judgemental, thinking before I speak, etc.) but it's very hard. Are there proven ways to adapt?

Changing certain facets of my personality would make me a much better person and it's something I really want to do.
 
People can change, but in my experience the biggest changes have been without me/them realising it... whereas when people "try" to change it is rarely anything monumental and a lot more diffcult.

Your instinct is to act natural and not "force" yourserlf to act different... hence why gradual changes are more pronounced in my opinion. :)
 
Royality said:
Changing certain facets of my personality would make me a much better person and it's something I really want to do.
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I was thinking the same as if nothing else, I'd be happier for it. :)

And one of the people I was thinking about when writing the OP would also be happier and would have a lot to gain but still hasn't managed to do it. Makes me wonder if it's even possible?

I understand people do without realising, either for good or for bad, but I don't know if I believe people can change themselves!
 
I dont see why people should change to make someone else happy (Well the big aspects) I think people should love/hate you for who you are and not what they want you to be.

I also don't think people will change over short periods of time.

I do however think people can train themselves to be more thoughtful to a certian persons feelings easily if you understand me :/

KaHn
 
If you are referring to men, don't believe them. They are all useless pieces of ****!
"Oh I swear I will never hurt you again."
Pfft as if.

/rant off/

:p
 
megzy said:
If you are referring to men, don't believe them. They are all useless pieces of ****!
"Oh I swear I will never hurt you again."
Pfft as if.

/rant off/

:p
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Thats just because you are young and immature (no offence but you are)

KaHn
 
megzy said:
If you are referring to men, don't believe them. They are all useless pieces of ****!
"Oh I swear I will never hurt you again."
Pfft as if.

/rant off/

:p
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LOL

As it happens I'm talking about 1 guy and 1 lass in particular. I've been bitten a few too many times to take things on face value anymore and I need to see things with my own eyes before I start to accept it. I just haven't seen this yet and wondered if others have. :)
 
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Morba said:
life changes people.

i know i have changed since having a baby boy :]
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I think that is growing and not so much changing, people grow with time and change naturally, I think we are talking about people sitting there one day and going "I will always be on time or I will never shout again etc etc"

KaHn
 
Did someone say off-topic?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/5177880.stm

Fewer children in England are eating school meals following chef Jamie Oliver's campaign to make menus healthier, government figures suggest.

Its School Food Trust found take-up rates for primary schools in 2005-06 were 42.3% and 42.7% for secondaries.

The figure for all schools the previous year had been 44.9%. The decline comes despite the government's target of a 10-point increase in take-up by 2009.

The trust said schools pushing hardest to improve had done well.
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