Dont take things for granted....

Broke up with my girlfriend due to essentially what came down to failed communication leading to her driving me absolutely bonkers/controlling me. I walked, she sorted herself out, I waited one week too long to see if she was truly changed. She said no.

Absolutely gutted.
 
Could be worse, I know a couple that had been together 20 odd years, married, children....then out of the blue she leaves him for another woman....And she had never been with a woman in her life before!!
 
I highly doubt it has anything to do with being taken for granted, if you're with someone close for many years you inevitably get to know their mannerisms, both good and bad.
You get to know them better than most people and reach a stage of being comfortable around each other with pretty much anything.

Now, at this point a lot of relationships fail because it becomes stale, or like the OP one or the other partner believes that they are being taken for granted, which is a bad excuse. If you can't be in a relationship where you don't have to worry about them running off and know they will always be there then it's doomed. Doubly so if either partner thinks becoming comfortable is a bad sign.

Of course, high maintenance partners will invariably see the lack of attention as being taken for granted too. Take your pick, I've mentioned at least two reasons how it could be misjudged for something else.
However you also mentioned you treated her like a doormat, which is anyone guess to what that really means. Maybe you're trying to find reasons you weren't given.

Although, from your previous posts about her she sounds as if she took you for a ride herself at least once and couldn't come to a fair agreement on 3 occasions.
 
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