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family drama - told off sister for being lazy..

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by rainbowGuy, May 10, 2020.

  1. rainbowGuy

    Gangster

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    TLDR: had a go at my sister for not helping out as she has been coming down with her family everyday & not doing her bit & had a go at her but mum/her thinks i am in the wrong!

    SO my sister lives near me (couple doors down). She, with her family (3 kids/husband) would come over to over house everyday and expect to be waited on upon. so things like she would just go in the kitchen sit down, my wife/mum set the table, then afterwards take the plates away, wash em etc.. while she would be in my mums room with her family playing games on phone. Her kids would make mess in the room(s) which we would clean up after they had left.

    She has occasionally cooked food at her home and brought it over.. and in the past she has helped my mum out with various bits like court etc but we have also helped her look after her kids when shes gone off to uni, her husband has also helped out in the house occasionally. just mentioning as my mum keeps bringing this up..

    so anyway I had a go at her and all hell broke lose as if i had done/said something wrong. She started shouting and bringing other unrelated issues.. I had talked to my mum earlier on and she said she would talk to her but i waited a month'ish and nothing was done..

    Now I dont expect her to come and help out everyday but when you know people are tidying up in the kitchen and you are on your phone playing games.. that is not on. However my mum doesnt see anything wrong as she says my sister is coming 'home to her mother's home' (I might add we are asians so a bit of that dynamic plays into it)..

    What do you say.. should i have let it go or?
     
  2. NVP

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    Joined: Sep 6, 2007

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    There's your problem

    Spoilt brats rarely change without extreme circumstances.

    Basically, say whatever you want to make yourself feel better, but she won't change until the shame becomes public. (I couldn't for the life of me figure out how to write "bear-sti" with Roman letters).

    Disclaimer - complete and utter generalised guess.
     
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  3. rainbowGuy

    Gangster

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    as it turns out instead of helping out, she is just going to stay in her home...
     
  4. iamdjdz

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    Which she should have been doing for the past month and a half...
     
  5. vanpeebles

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    Location: County Durham

    Considering she only lives a few doors down, have you thought about her letterbox yet?
     
  6. jimjamuk

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    Location: Bristol, UK

    Great now you can all go to hers and put your feet up
     
  7. secretspy

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    Exactly

    Why has she been coming over anyway? Doesn't matter that you're related or living a few doors down. The lockdown rules apply to everyone...
     
  8. NVP

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    *guidelines
     
  9. Craig R

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    This. What are you playing at? Lock the door and keep her out.
     
  10. Tony Edwards

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    No. You just have to be alert from now on.
     
  11. VincentHanna

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    This

    You are moving between households?? Have a word with yourselves
     
  12. Energize

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    Location: London

    This is a clear violation of the lockdown rules why is she coming over?
     
  13. The Geezer

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    This is exactly why we’ll never be out of lockdown, certain people think rules don’t apply to them.
     
  14. secretspy

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    the guideline from now on is to remain "alert" but from 23rd March lockdown was clearly stated as;
    Must not leave your house unless necessary I.e. for exercise once a day , work if you cannot work from home and for essentials.
    Must not meet with people from other households (that includes family)

    E: meant to say we are still to remain alert but some rules/guidelines whatever you want to call them are being "tweaked" from this week (clarity to hopefully be given tomorrow)
     
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  15. Craig R

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    You are still not meant to be socialising with other households. This has not changed.
     
  16. Tony Edwards

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    Well to be fair they are saying its the same message. They just say its just more clearer now.

    Now I know it doesnt seem clearer given the facts but thats how they are putting it out there. Stay at home was misunderstood it seems as far as the government is concerned. People took it too literaly and people were meant to still be going to work. Food establishments were still meant to be open apparrently. The government now say.
     
  17. plasmahal

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    That's creepy and incestuous....
     
  18. vanpeebles

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    The other letterbox!
     
  19. secretspy

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    Yes, sorry you are correct, I was trying to type it out quickly before my battery died.
     
  20. NVP

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    :D :D :D