Getting Engaged?

chesterstu · 3 Sep 2006 at 00:51

I am planning on getting engaged to my long term girlfriend of 5 years on new years eve at midnight while the fireworks are going on over the clear Indean Ocean in Goa while we are on holiday over Christmas.

What do people think, is this romantic?

Should I buy a ring and take it with me OR should i wait and let her choose her own?

afraser2k · 3 Sep 2006 at 00:57

Buy a ring and ask (down on one knee) while the display is going on in the background, Hollywood style romance.

Fingers crossed for you she says yes.

NathanE · 3 Sep 2006 at 01:01

Highly romantic IMO

Go for it! Everyone here backs ya'

Slinwagh · 3 Sep 2006 at 01:07

chesterstu said:
I am planning on getting engaged to my long term girlfriend of 5 years on new years eve at midnight while the fireworks are going on over the clear Indean Ocean in Goa while we are on holiday over Christmas.

What do people think, is this romantic?

Should I buy a ring and take it with me OR should i wait and let her choose her own?

My personal feeling is that it is a bit cheese tastic, other people will say romantic, its a very personal thing.

Just hope she isn't paying to much attention to the fireworks that she doesn't hear you pop the question!

Good luck mate and remember......

There is no married mans allowance now...........

No serioulsy, all the best!

Adeline · 3 Sep 2006 at 01:09

Keep the receipt for the ring just in case!
As its a nice proposal I'm sure she will love the ring and say yes. (fingers crossed)
Go for it, every girl (including myself) would love a proposal like that.

Vixen · 3 Sep 2006 at 01:09

Slinwagh said:
My personal feeling is that it is a bit cheese tastic, other people will say romantic, its a very personal thing.

I agree. I think the best way to propose is in a way that has meaning to the other person, not what the general public find "romantic".

Slinwagh · 3 Sep 2006 at 01:12

Vixen said:
I agree. I think the best way to propose is in a way that has meaning to the other person, not what the general public find "romantic".

I actually never thought about it that much, there wasn't any special moment as such, no big planned "moment" it just popped out.

Adeline · 3 Sep 2006 at 01:14

Vixen said:
I agree. I think the best way to propose is in a way that has meaning to the other person, not what the general public find "romantic".

I completely agree with that.
But then every women has an idea of how they would like to be proposed to...
Its how an individual feels and what feels right for each person.
The meaning of the proposal is more important than the act itself (in my honest opinion)

Zefan · 3 Sep 2006 at 01:17

It's like having christmas on your birthday a bit... the day you got engaged will always be new years eve, which kinda steals its thunder (I know I'd want it to be a totally seperate event unrelated to anything else, maybe I'm weird)

I'm not even sure I'm making sense, but oh well

Sleepy · 3 Sep 2006 at 02:30

Slinwagh said:
I actually never thought about it that much, there wasn't any special moment as such, no big planned "moment" it just popped out.

Same here, got a very surprised look, then a very big smile.

Vixen · 3 Sep 2006 at 02:46

Adeline said:
I completely agree with that.
But then every women has an idea of how they would like to be proposed to...
Its how an individual feels and what feels right for each person.
The meaning of the proposal is more important than the act itself (in my honest opinion)

That's exactly what I meant

. Personally, I don't really care about an overly "romantic" situation, especially as I know with my current boyfriend that would be forced and not really him.
You're right about the meaning of it too. Far too many people think about the idea of proposing without thinking what it actually means and what comes from it. I know so many people who talked about getting engaged at 16 when they had no intentions of actually marrying the person in question.

calnen · 3 Sep 2006 at 07:29

I got engaged recently, and as people have said do it in a way that would be special to her. She'll remember it forever (hopefully!) so make it personal! Also, definately buy the ring beforehand. Choosing it's half the fun

And if she really doesnt like it (unlikely!) you can always exchange them.
Good luck!

Muban · 3 Sep 2006 at 10:03

So you have deicided you want to spend the rest of your life with this person.... and you want to wait 4 months to ask them!! I don't understand that at all really. It sounds OK but I always think it's nicer to ask in a way that is more personal to you. Proposing on a recognised day already (birthday/valentines/christmas/new year) never seems quite as nice. Well unless thats the day you suddenly realise you want to spend the rest of your life with them

. Of course you know her better than we do so maybe she would like that sort of thing, some girls would love it. It's far from the worst proposal I have heard of

mr tommo · 3 Sep 2006 at 12:03

How long do people generall stay engaged for before getting married though? I didnt think you celebrated your Engagement.

oxist258 · 3 Sep 2006 at 13:13

Going to disagree entirely with the majority here - depends on the two of you as a couple, but I think it is a lovely idea. You're probably not going to celebrate your engagement too much anyway, and I think the idea of proposing when the two of you are away on an amazing holiday (which I think Goa would be!) is lovely, and on that particular night sound wonderful. Big gestures aren't necessarily cheesy - if it all goes well, I think it would be magical

dsb · 3 Sep 2006 at 13:17

i think its a great idea, let your gf chose the ring you will only get the one she dosnt like.

mr tommo · 3 Sep 2006 at 13:52

Personally, I think you could watch the new years celebration, watch the fireworks... Then go for a walk along the beach after all the celebrations and propose on the beach. Might be a bit more private?